Akim, I’m sorry for what you are going thru, I feel for you. I’m kinda going thru a similar thing and It is gut wrenching. I’ve got the same movie replaying in my mind and it never stops. Regret is a mind and soul destroyer. It is so hard to move past it all. Your only friend is time. While you wait for time to somehow heal the wound, you must distract yourself. It is hard but you must get out and and get moving. From your post, you say you had so many opportunities. Guess what? More are out there, the opportunities will come if you are out there. I had to learn the hard way that there were zero opportunities in my living room. When I finally went out one day to the store, the cute checkout girl gave me the biggest smile and brightest eyes. For ten minutes, I completely forgot all about my situation. That one little interaction was enough to inspire me to get out a little bit more (back to that store for sure!). I’m still working thru my deal, and it’s very difficult….but man, I’m telling you from tough experience, get out there. All you need right now is a small spark to get your engine going. Go to a concert, bar, club, party, heck I went to the grocery store! Hang in there! Peace and good vibes coming your way

If it makes you feel any better, I’m 23 too and I don’t think I’ve ever gotten over most of the guys I’ve been with. To the point where my last relationship was ruined because I couldn’t let go of another guy who was hot/cold and unable to commit to me. It’s been 8 months, my most recent ex has moved on with a new girl, but I am still pining over him AND the guy before him. I think it has to do with a lot of emotional issues I’ve in general, but I guess my point is you are not alone and it’s ok. I have a few friends like you who are not over people they met at 18 too, their first loves. It’s more common than we think…

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• This reply was modified 11 years, 9 months ago by SV.