I started dating a guy back in august of last year. He had been freshly divorced at the beginning of the year. I was slightly hesitant to start dating a man that soon after he had severed his last relationship. But after talking for a couple of weeks we decided to finally meet in person. Things went relatively smoothly for a somewhat long distant relationship.

We had been dating for about two months, and I was feeling unsure of whether or not he wanted a relationship with me. This was due to him not communicating with me very well in the last couple of weeks. Along with other people trying to get involved with our relationship. Which had my anxiety peaked to the point where I was breaking into tears at some point. I brought this up and he completely caught me off guard with finally confessing to me what he was thinking. (all over the phone)

He didn’t feel like he was good enough for me, he was falling for me and was terrified. He has so many issues that he needs to fix and he doesn’t want me to get involved. He wanted to stay friends, but at that point, I was extremely hurt. I then proceeded to get emotional, due to the fact that he was finally opening up to me, just to push me away.

I would try to communicate with him saying I would give him his space, but at the same time trying to work things out if we could. He stopped replying to me which made me panic more. I eventually gave up on trying to communicate all together. And eventually deleted him off most of my social media, do to the distress it made to see him at all.

I haven’t tried talking to him in over 3 months and now I want to try to reach out to him, just to see how he is doing. But at the same time, I am afraid and feel foolish for even thinking about doing so after how emotional I got the last time we talked. I miss him a lot and want to try to be friends with him again, at least. Is it a bad idea for me to reach out to him? Or should I just let that old relationship just completely die off?