Hi Hark,

Your post came up on the side of my page when I was reading an article about toxic relationships, and what you’re saying reminds me so much of a friend of mine, so I felt the need to reply. Literally just made an account lol

My first thought is to try to enjoy your alone time. It’s better to be alone and happy than to try and force a relationship which isn’t meant to be. (Granted I’m biased after just ending such a relationship..) And I guess that brings me to my second thought. Are you happy? I mean, other than feeling lonely and trapped- do you enjoy your life? Do you make time for yourself and surround yourself with people/places/activities that bring you happiness? I think it’s true that when you’re happy other people gravitate towards you.. and eventually there has to be one that will appreciate what you have to offer.

Maybe you’re more mature than the people you hang out with or try to date? I would stop focusing on what’s wrong with you and remember all the good you have to offer! And honestly those people are doing you a favor by kicking rocks. I was with someone who didn’t appreciate all that I had to offer and it ended up becoming this sick cycle in which I just longed for his validation. I’m a good woman and even with my faults I knew I deserved better than to feel that way.

I can only hope my silly ramblings make you think…or laugh at how odd I am for reaching out this way lol. May you find happiness soon