Don’t worry about what other people think about you. #1
Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. # 2
Thank God you have a job. Many people don’t. #3
Dunt Vurry #4

Thanks Louise and Bucky.

Hi Doremi @doremi

You have a beautiful name 🙂

I will share my perspective on this issue and see if it resonates with your being. You sound like a young soul from the post 🙂

– people are going to be inconsistent in their behaviours until they are quite spiritually advanced. This means that it takes a lot of self awareness and mindfulness practice before someone can stop having a herd mentality and accept everyone as they are. You will find that people will misbehave, gossip, bitch, pass judgments at a drop of a hat if given a choice. This is how many of us have been brought up in our current society. We are not comfortable in our own skin and hence, we try to see everyone in the same light. Solution for you : accept that people are who are they and you wont be able to please someone for too long except yourself. The only person who should matter to you is YOU. Once you are comfortable in your skin, you wont care about what anyone eats, thinks, does, says etc. You will get better at this with time so dont be hard on yourself.

– we all wish to be part of the various social groups around us. This is our innate need and it is hard to change. Our DNA is wired for this :). So enjoy yourself in whichever group you wish to engage with. Girls and boys are not too different when they mingle. Boys gossip and bitch in their own ways and girls do it in their own ways but we all do it. Remember, we are the same species at the end of the day. What is important is that you are able to be YOU in any situation or environment. With practice, it becomes easier again. When you are more authentic yourself, you will be surprised at how many other people will be inspired by your authenticity and will start to be themselves around you. People are often pretentious as they fear rejection and judgment from others around them. Once you accept everyone as they are, there is no fear of rejection then, is there ?

– Office politics occur in every workplace on this earth. When you have 2 or more humans under the same roof, there will be politics. The question is – do you want to be part of it or do you want to be aware of it and do your work with passion and full commitment ? I have learnt to follow the second principle regarding work politics. If you are going to be part of it, you will not be at peace in your mind if you are a conscious person ( someone who doesnt enjoy backstabbing, ego stroking, power play etc). However, by being aware that there is politics and who is involved in it, you can use the information to your advantage in an ethical manner and still be part of the bigger organisation and its vision.

I wish you all the best in your journey. You are worth it. Keep doing the great work and keep becoming more YOU in every situation and environment.

Jasmine

Always remain true to yourself, it is a balancing act where I work as well. I treat everyone the same, offering to each of them a helping hand without expecting anything in return. I do bite holes in my tongue when I really want to explode like a volcano but in the end I will be the one who looks like the bad employee.

I avoid all gossip circles, do not go to lunch with anyone because that stirs up unwanted opinions. I would never have a beer in an after hour setting because of the aftermath of idle talk.

I do not in anyway entertain relationships of a personal nature, have had several offers but I shoot them all down and walk away. Work and getting along with people can be very difficult, do not try working both sides to gain ‘brownie points’ that mount up to nothing.

Remain firm with your beliefs, keep it to yourself and do stir up the pot of discontent because it will boil over.

Be well and walk in peace.