I’ve been there girl and I’m sort of dealing with it now, we just aren’t broken up. It’s weird. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. What I had to do before is realize that i’m the cause of everything in my life. I started keeping myself busy and planning out my days. Going to the movies alone, going on nature walks, just getting out and active. You really have to just train your mind to think about something else when you go to those low spots. Conditioning it. How are you doing now?

Hi Bren, that sounds so much like me about 8 months ago and I do still have my bad days… but it does get better and brighter. I also suffer anxiety which it got really bad with I split with my fiance. I had the extreme lonliness and lost feeling 🙁 it is the most horrible feeling. But I prayed that it would change and gradually it has. I do believe you must get out and socialise and meet new people. Not referring to men, but hey when you feel ready there is no harm in having some nice male company 🙂 … this was my second big split and serious heartbreak, I am 37 and I wish I could be guaranteed that it would never happen again, but unfortunately life is weird like that. Try and focus on trying to be strong for yourself and build up a good friendship circle. I made the mistake of dating a guy about 2 months ago and it made me worse as I was still anxious and wasnt ready mentally for it. Hugs to you and believe me it will get better and you WILL meet someone else and fall in love again. Life is all about LOVE 🙂 xx

Hi Bren. I know what you’re going through. There was a point in my life where I felt so alone and scared after a breakup from a serious relationship. I recently wrote about lessons everyone can learn from being single that I wish I knew then. I encourage you to do more things that help you keep your life in perspective. A useful tool I’ve used is to draw a long timeline of my life from the day I was born to the age I believe I will die. Then, draw a space representing the time of the relationship or when you’ve been in relationships. It reminded me of how this period in our lives is just a tiny fraction of the possibilities ahead. It might sound silly, but I like to do more things that get me out of my head and look at things more objectively. Hope it helps you. Hang in there, things will get better!

@Bren
you’re not stuck! This feeling is in your mind and stops you from being happy (or finding a partner).Try to see things logically.You are here you live for the moment,do everything to make yourself feel happy.You are the most valuable thing you have.You must take care of yourself.
There’s nothing wrong with you…When we’re in love we use to prettify PEOPLE and things,so when we get out of this situations,our walls break down.
After a divorce we need to focus on ourselves because the strength we had we gave it all to the ex! our loved ones.
but it’s time to give love to ourselves..we must be happy and lovable by us and no need of others to make us liked.
Treat yourself good… the good feelings and the good thoughts will help you! That’s all…That is how we get out of difficult times.Think positive until you get the habit !!!

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