Hi Doremi

I’m sorry to hear about the situation with your clearly jealous new manager trying to sabotage your work.

The plus side, he has revealed his hand and you are in a better position to protect yourself now.

It’s understandable to be hurt and upset by his actions. I do think that your results speak for themselves though. Keep on doing what you do best and try to protect yourself.

See how you feel in a few days when it isn’t as raw. Also, I don’t know if your company has this policy. But if you aren’t happy with a review and don’t feel it accurately reflects your work don’t sign it and speak to HR.

Sometimes there are personality conflicts within an organization, someone attempting to sabotage your success, or inappropriate behavior.

Go where you are celebrated, not tolerated.

Your work environment impacts your mental health.

But you can also put up boundaries as to what you allow to affect you. Can you just do the daily task regardless of validation? Can you take constructive criticism (so long as it’s respectful and exactly that – constructive)? Can you self-advocate or address your needs with a coworker or manager? Can you talk to HR or someone higher up than your manager? Can you let your manager know what you will and will not tolerate?

Okay so personally if it were me I would just look for another job. I know that’s not easy. But I can’t be around toxicity. It’s about how much you are willing to tolerate and if you can detach and just think “I’m doing this to survive. That’s all this is.”

I’ve been in fields with children at daycare centers where there was abuse or coworkers sabotaging me. Someone once told me if there’s a sick feeling in your stomach, that’s a sign (from God, universe, whatever), that something isn’t right. That’s a gut feeling. If you already know the situation isn’t right for you and can’t be mended – either tolerate it with boundaries and self-advocate OR walk away.

You can’t live with how it is currently.

Visualize your success. What would your dream job or position be? How would it make you feel? I don’t really buy into the whole manifesting thing but sometimes starting over is an adventure and it’s okay to be open to it.