Hi There!

First off, my best recommendation for you is to take a few big deep breaths. It takes a lot of courage to be able to share a scary story and it sounds to me like you are absolutely on the right path already by looking at your situation from a slightly outside perspective and trying to include yoga in your daily practice, but this is not a moment to leave things to fate. Right now you are leaving your heart in his hands.

It is very difficult to advise someone on what they should do about a rocky relationship because it is so personal, but it sounds to me like you have been on the giving end of this relationship without getting a whole lot in return for quite some time. And this, my friend, is never fair. A relationship should be balanced. A give and take scenario.

The best thing to do right now is to be a little bit selfish. You need to sit down and have a conversation with yourself about self worth and what you feel that you deserve. Take all of the history out of the equation though. This is what meditating can be a very fantastic tool for. Taking a few minutes each day to sit with yourself, let go of the past even if just for a few moments, and don’t try to hypothesize what the future may bring. Think to yourself how you feel in this moment right now. Are you where you want to be? Do you feel like you are waking up every day being treated the way hat you want to be? Imagine you are a mother and you are sitting down with your daughter as she moves into adulthood. Tell her what kind of man she deserves. Tell her how he should treat her, what she deserves, and what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship.

It sounds to me like you know exactly what you should do but, as relationships go, it is extremely difficult to turn into a reality but it is really all about creating a quality of life for yourself that you deserve. You cannot change people, but you can change how you react to them and you can create a life for yourself that you desire. Being taken advantage of never feels good and it is very hard to know what to do when it is happening with someone that you love.

Stay strong and figure how how you can work towards making yourself happy right now. Ad then tomorrow when you wake up, take another tiny step in the right direction. These things take time and looking inside yourself to realize your true happiness potential without distraction or swaying from an outsiders perspective.

I wish you the best of luck and love in you journey 🙂

What you are going through sounds really difficult and in my past I had similar experiences so I feel like I can relate.

It’s very common that people like yourself who want to express intimacy especially when anxious end up with partners who are afraid of intamcy. Which side is right? In my opinion both. It’s OK to want intimacy, and it’s OK to not want to deal with emotions.

So you are both ok. But if you want greater intamacy in relationships and he is afraid it might not be very conducive to making you happy. I’m with someone who is not into expressing and sharing emotions as much as I would like. I am fully aware with someone else that aspect of the relationship could be better. But overall I am making a choice and doing so eyes open.

Now that you know your feelings are ok and nothing to be ashamed of. And knowing his feelings are not wrong, they just kind of are what he feels. What do you want to do. His tenancies in that are are unlikely to transform.

I’d encourage you to seek happiness in whatever direction that journey takes you.