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  • September 18, 2016 at 9:33 am #115525
    Anonymous
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    Dear koof56:

    I am not clear: are you ready to immigrate and pursue your dreams if accepted by a company you apply to or are you held back by feelings of responsibility to your two sisters, at this point?

    I need to know the above before replying further.

    anita

    September 18, 2016 at 7:28 pm #115556
    koof
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    hey anita,

    sorry i was writing the post in a rush, i am planning to immigrate but responsibility of my two sisters and also the uncertain economical situation in the country i plan to go makes it harder to get a job there.

    September 18, 2016 at 7:37 pm #115558
    Anonymous
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    Dear koof56:

    If you no longer had any financial responsibility for your two sisters, what would you do different from what you are doing now?

    anita

    September 18, 2016 at 8:16 pm #115570
    koof
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    Dear Anita,

    i would pursue my goal,to go work in an architecture firm that fits my talent and skill. Learn and grow from there, be in a new environment that doesnt demotivate me or brainwash me that reality is supposed to be this way – save up, and start applying for scholarships next year to pursue my post grad.

    koof

    September 19, 2016 at 5:49 am #115587
    Peter Reece
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    Hi koof56

    That’s a tough situation you’ve been through. Am I right in thinking though that you’re no longer responsible for your older sister if she’s now working?

    Pete

    September 19, 2016 at 9:50 am #115598
    Anonymous
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    Dear koof:

    I would let go of the responsibility for your sisters- the responsibility you took on yourself. You have no such legal responsibility. I believe you have no such ethical responsibility either, never had. You are not their parent- you didn’t choose to bring them into the world. And they are both adults.

    What I would do, if I was you, is to peel that self-imprisoning layer of responsibility off me. It will take some time and preparation. Consider what will happen if you stop supporting them financially and work with them to prepare for the time- maybe a few months from now- when you will stop supporting them financially.

    Interesting thing is, one you stop supporting them financially it might help your older sister. After all, she is unwell WHILE you are supporting her. Life might get better for her if you allow her to be responsible for herself.

    Regarding your younger sister: she may have to work, to postpone some of her education and that is okay. You see: YOU matter. Your life should not be sacrifice for others. Why should it be?

    You are not worth less than the life of any other person. Why not promote your own life?

    anita

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