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August 1, 2020 at 9:46 am #363461
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GuestDear Jasmine:
I wish, and I am sure that you wish too, that your father would have put his money into a trust fund for you, so that you would have access to it eight years or so after his passing, as an adult. I wish he didn’t leave his money to his aunt, assuming or hoping that she will give you that money later, or finance your education using it.
What you brought up: that your father’s money will end up as more luxury for corporate CEO’s who have all the luxuries in the world already, while you could have used this money to further your education and your children’s education- this is very sad for me to read, and I know that this kind of injustice is everywhere, it is mind boggling and difficult to accept, it is simply too unjust to accept.
The serenity prayer comes to my mind (again): “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference”-
– there is no better option than to accept the things we cannot change. And to do what we can do to change the things we can. As I think of the injustices I suffered in life, and the injustices so many of us are suffering because of political mismanagement and corruption- I feel this deep sadness and I .. somehow relax into knowing that really, there is nothing I can do about it. There is serenity in this relaxing.
anita
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August 3, 2020 at 6:39 am #363569Anonymous
InactiveI think part of our hurt is that we feel rejected or forgotten in not being left the money. It just doesn’t seem right or ethical what happened. For some reason, your dad didn’t know or purposefully chose to leave his estate in the way he did. Your aunt did what pleased her. We may feel one kind of way or another about this but the truth of this is, it was their money to do as they saw fit. Maybe it wasn’t the best use of their resources or maybe you got cheated so to speak. Sometimes we project or deflect our anger at X rather than Y, because it is easier to be angry at X but it doesn’t feel safe to be angry at Y (your dad). We want to love our parents and it hurts to think they didn’t do right by us. Maybe it is easier to be angry at the CEOs and all of that. We can’t change any of this but we can use it to make sure we do our will properly and make sure our children are taken care of properly (if we have any). The reasons your dad did what he did are unknown to us. There may be some story we don’t know. Maybe the aunt promised something and didn’t fulfill her bargain. Maybe he owned her for something. I am sorry, I know this hurts. I think get in touch with how much this hurt and how you feel. Try to find acceptance once you can acknowledge your pain and anger. How you feel is okay, it is probably what most of us would feel in this situation. You deserved better.
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