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    Peter
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    It only a mistake if you don’t learn from the experience.

    The “mistakes” you mentioned seem to come from a place of trying to do too much too quickly with an underling fear of not being perfect. I am a firm believer, having personal experiences that we create what we fear. Slow down, breath, create some space and you will find that you will become even more proficient at your job.

    The notes I handle no better than many pianists. But the pauses between the notes ah, that is where the art resides. Artur Schnabel

    “The music is not in the notes, but in the silence between them”. – Claude Debussy

    Allow life to be music

    Recommend the following book.
    ‘Stopping: How to Be Still When You Have to Keep Going’ by David Kundtz

    Perfectionist – holding yourself to standards that you don’t hold others to… (some might experience that as arrogance) … we love others as we love ourselves… what are you saying about yourselves when you apply the label of perfectionist as a part of our being.

    The One Thing You Need to Know to Overcome Perfectionism

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    Anonymous
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    Dear fnsful:

    What you described is indeed a “dark spiral”- making mistakes increases your anxiety; increased anxiety leads to more mistakes.

    For the aim of making fewer mistakes, logic says, lower your anxiety. Calm will improve your memory, your focus, attention and bring about fewer and fewer mistakes.

    The key to calm following making mistakes is to practice empathy for yourself instead of bullying yourself with thoughts such as you mentioned: “’You’re stupid, how could you not notice that.’ And ‘Why are you here? You can’t do this.’”

    When you hear the bullying voice, replace it with the empathy voice, with thoughts like: It is okay. It is okay to make mistakes. I am intelligent and capable when I am calm.

    Think of the child part of you who made a mistake: don’t be mean to this child; be gentle and patient instead. Be loving and kind to yourself.

    anita

    #119167
    Ane Krstevska
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    Life is too short to get stuck in fear and doubts, why not be happy? From this uncertainty, we fall in fear and doubt mode which is a bad cycle and last forever. Just imagine the greatest stories of all time, how they would sound if the heroes inside were with little self-confidence and self-doubt?

    Never allow yourself to fail because of abandoning your story. Never allow your fear to push you away from your life path. You can change those habits of getting stuck in self-doubt and anxious thinking cycles only if you stay loyal to your story.

    But how you can change your life if your story works against you? Very simple! Change your damn story, create a better one. Become the hero of your lifetime, sing this famous song every day. Be proud of it and always be pushing forward. One of my blogs talks about this in more details: http://www.selfdevelopshop.com/you-can-change-your-life-by-changing-your-main-story/

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