Dear Alondra:

You wrote: “I just feel like I am the piece in their life that makes their life ‘complete’. In their eyes, I’m probably just a sister that annoys them, but in my eyes I’m more than that”

What is important to consider regarding their loss in you moving out of state, is not what you are to them in your eyes, but in theirs. After all, they experience their lives through their eyes, not through your eyes.

You have three brothers, two live with their father and one with your mother and grandmother. You can check with each one of your brothers and find out what your presence (in the same state as it has been the case so far) means to each one individually. It will be more difficult to find out with the youngest one, I suppose.

Look at their individual lives, what adults play the biggest part in their lives and what role did you have, what difference did you make in each one’s life so far.

Do you think this will help you?

anita