He says he wants you to meet his family, spend Christmas together, introduce you to his friends, taking you around his hometown etc. Then it gets awkward and he says the opposite – that he’s nervous about a relationship. He only messages you when you stop chasing him. You have sex and then, nothing again.

I would watch not what he says, but what he does. Does he show you he is interested? Does he show you he will be emotionally available to you? Does he introduce you to his family, spend Christmas with you etc. not just say it to you?

If not, then perhaps he isn’t so interested. Or, he is an emotionally unavailable man. Either way, is that really a good enough offer for you? Is it worth pursuing and pushing him to change into something you hope he might be, rather than who he is now? I hope this doesn’t sound too harsh. But I chased someone like that in a similar way. And it only led to heartache.

If you take the attitude ‘if it’s meant to be it will be’ and don’t push for it to happen, the answer will be given to you by his actions. If he does show you the above, then great! I hope it all works out for you, in the way that is best for you.