Dear Kuono:

You are referring to your mother asking you if you are anorexic, I understand. Yes, people will point their figurative flashlight every which way except where it matters, where the answer really is. People don’t want to see what they don’t want to see, so they will look other places.

I hope you will soon enough, well, as soon as is possible, move out and no longer live with your mother. Until then, what do you think is the best way to deal with your mother?

anita