Dear Sazssypants:
You asked: “Is this pay back for breaking up with him earlier?”
There is a cause and effect thing in life. You did break up with him twice so to grow and discover yourself, you wrote, and he was very hurt that you did so. The friend comforted him at those times and probably was on HIS (your bf’s) side. He probably felt a negative sentiment for the girl (you) who hurt his friend (your bf).
So you breaking up with him is the CAUSE and him not wanting you with his friend is EFFECT.
Nothing you can do about reality of cause and effect: when you do something, you can not undo it. It is like throwing a rock in the lake and complaining that there is a ripple in the water.
anita