Dear Mei:

When he was “insisting on sleeping close to each other, demanding hugs and other things”, he was disrespectful to you. When he then “complained about how cold” you were following his disrespectful behavior, “and how painful it was for him to not receive those attentions”, he was selfish, self serving at your expense.

Do you see it the way I do? If you do, revaluate your guilt. Why feel guilty in regard to a person who disrespects you and who  pursues his pleasure at your expense?

anita

He has a new partner, a good life. Why does he insists on being friends?

Its possible that at a sub-conscious level your a safety net and or its a power thing. (I think its a power thing) Regardless he isn’t respecting your needs so no your not being selfish… he is. I suspect your angry because deep down you know this – its him… not you, no matter what he tells you.

Some doors are best left closed. If you keep It open, even just a crack he’s is going to try to open it.