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  • September 26, 2015 at 8:51 am #84144
    Sann
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    Wow, so much recognition in all of the replies. I’m not going to start replying to all that because i don’t know where to start.
    I’m struggling with that as well, and now trying to learn: what’s wrong with not liking someone? I am not enlightened so i can’t be supposed to be without any preferences. I usually always feel obliged to like everybody and i don’t even know that i don’t like certain people. I want to learn that: who do i like more or less.
    And i also would like to learn to be polite and kind to the ones i don’t like, not to let them see that i dislike them, having good functional relations (if necessary)

    Of course, like mentioned above, it can be surprising that you happen to like certain people that you didn’t like in the beginning. So it can pay off to try to stay open.

    September 26, 2015 at 8:53 am #84145
    Sann
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    I’m just starting to have some awareness on people’s energy, i don’t know how you guys think about that.
    With some people, i don’t need much words, i can feel it when i’m around them: this is nice, there is a nice feel about that person. It is good for me to be around them.
    Equally, with others, it is the opposite.
    The energy might be to different or not compatible.
    Do you guys believe in that, or is that some silly story?

    So i think it might be different to dislike somebody because of that, and because of our own judgments or interpretations. In the second case, we might be more open for change in perception.

    September 26, 2015 at 8:59 am #84146
    Anonymous
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    * Dear Sann:

    There are many reasons to liking or disliking anyone. When someone pays attention to me positively, asks me questions and listens to answers, really listens and seems interested in my welfare- that is rare and I will like any such person. It would be comfortable to be around such. I dislike people who talk to me and act with me as if I am not there, talk about their stuff just so to “vomit” their distress, using me as … a sink for their vomit.
    anita

    September 26, 2015 at 9:59 am #84152
    Sann
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    Dear Anita,

    Yes you have a point there.

    Also, your remark reminds me. Often what we see in others is a reflection of ourselves, of how we look at others and at the world.
    Do you know that story, where they let a puppy in a room, and it comes out all distressed, barking and angry. And then they let in a second one, that comes out all jumping and wagging its tail.
    So you wonder: what is in that room, that makes one dog so angry and the other one happy. And it turns out, the room is full of mirrors. Often if we start from a more positive attitude, we will be more likely to like people than when we are stressed or negative about them
    Generally speaking, that is.

    September 26, 2015 at 10:06 am #84153
    Anonymous
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    Dear Sann:

    I agree: negative encourages negative and positive encourages positive. The verb I used is “encourage”- not guarantees. Sometimes not even encourages. That is some people will be negative no matter what your attitude is, and worse, some people will APPEAR positive just because they *&^% you over.

    anita

    September 26, 2015 at 10:57 am #84160
    Anonymous
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    Sann. Bang on in tune with your post about energy. Absolutely agree and feel it too.

    And when someone or something doesn’t feel right I have to stop and quickly check if it’s something in me making me not be open to that persons energy or if it’s a genuine something I’m picking up in them.

    I love all that stuff. I associate stuff with colours too so the vibes I feel off people I see in colours . Is that aura?

    September 27, 2015 at 12:01 pm #84216
    Sann
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    Dear Pomplemous,
    Wow, interesting that you can feel it that much.
    I reread my post and i realise: i wrote it a bit wrong.
    I am just starting to realise, that i sometimes feel that. I’ve never been much in tune with my feelings, always much with my thoughts and they were mostly incredibly negative. Now, recently, at work i’m slowly starting to become aware of that, only in some moments and only with a few people. Actually mainly with the people: one with a lovely energy and the one that i’d like to stay away from as far as possible. I’m not so good with being aware of my feelings when i’m around other people. So, often i can feel it, after (even short) interaction with that person, and when i’m working alone again, that i suddenly feel a lot calmer and stronger, and i think that is the reflection of that person’s energy. I might be totally wrong of course.
    I’m also learning that some people are very overwhelming for me, and that makes suddenly my negative thoughts go crazy, which also seems to be an indicator about their energy.
    It’s interesting to start to be aware of this, but i also find it very tiring – do you find that as well?

    September 27, 2015 at 3:37 pm #84224
    jock
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    I know what you’re talking about Sann. it is definitely worth being more mindful of our feelings. And you talk about energies. That is interesting too. Everyone one brings a slightly different energy, don’t they. Often at work, so much ego is at play, that power and politics pervade. I find there is very little authenticity and a lot of fake mask wearing. “I know better than you. You are lower on the food chain than me” People behave like a pack of dogs sometimes. They’ll sniff you out, to see where you fit in the hierarchy. And I find I’m rolling over as a peacemaker, sooner than not. 🙂

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