Thanks for the insight. I have a boyfriend who is exactly the same and I cant put up with it any longer. Controlling and demanding he even this he owns my car when I’m not driving it. I let him use it but he has gotten to comfortable and now go and come as he please without notifying me of his were abouts. At first he show some sign of it but not as much. Now its all out and really pushing me away. So far I haven’t said anything yet to care of it since I want him nice and comfortable before I strike. I know he anger is from being used and take advantage of. But also he feels his voice needs to be heard since in the past it hasn’t and he was never paid any attention too. I told him once that he should be that way with me and I’m like other people. He doesn’t get it nor did he break his cycle. Do you think he can do (if willing) what you have done?

Thank you Jerry for sharing. I have always felt this rage too. I didn’t recognize it as grief and fear
but that is exactly what it is, a long with a disease to please. I can see it now. I can understand.
I am willing to make an effort to change. I have the book The Power of Now, I read this far and
kind of got stuck. Stuck in my own pain. I never believed I mattered. It is time to claim it.
I want to do it because I want to do it. Not because someone is manipulating me into doing it.
I am tired of being manipulated and controlled. I am always reacting because this is happening.
And I have been thinking lately, I don’t have to give up my power to choose my own actions and
reactions. I don’t have to give anyone control over me. This is exactly where I am. I prayed
before I coincidently joined this forum today. Namaste.

Brenda