Don't Feel Myself

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May 27, 2014 at 7:57 am #57467

SC
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I have been having this problem for quite awhile:

I feel like I am not myself, or that I am just on auto-pilot and always spaced out. I am not just lounging around spaced out either. I work long hours, just finished my master’s (engineering thesis), and am closing on a house with a lot of construction being done. So I am productive, but I feel like nothing is really “real” and that there is a whole level of conciseness I am missing.

I also have a lot of trouble separating myself from my thoughts when meditating. I can’t seem to just “watch” my thoughts as I have read so many times. I end up thinking about watching my thoughts, which I guess is a thought itself.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

Best,

-SC

May 27, 2014 at 11:03 am #57473

Anyone
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Hi SC,

Check if you feel too self-conscious.. Or something petty/considerate might be disturbing you at the back of your mind. Feeling guilty about something?

If any of the above, figure out what is bugging you, bring it in front of you, give it a thought, accept it no matter you were right/wrong, don’t judge yourself too much, accept everything and then let it go! Life is too big too be stuck with small things. And remember, concentrate only on the positive thoughts and ignore the negatives that nag our mind constantly.

Even if it’s difficult to meditate, each time you notice your thoughts wandering, say to yourself, ‘never mind, let me concentrate on what I’m supposed to do’.

Accept yourself the way you’re because you’re special. You are unique, as they say, we don’t share DNA with anyone else in this world. So respect yourself, value yourself enough to live with dignity.

Hope it helps.

Stay blessed..:-)
Lots of positivity to you.

May 27, 2014 at 12:36 pm #57488

Matt
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SC,

Consider stop trying to watch your thoughts, and switch to feeling the breath. Its a little like body tug of war. Part feels the breath, part pulls attention into the thoughts. Just don’t worry about the thoughts part, and move your attention back to the feeling of the breath. The mind jumps “oh, what color for the foyer” and acts like its really important to think that right then. Its not, just a ripple in the mind, back to the breath.

Sometimes when we run and run, we forget to feel the sand between our toes… and then wonder where all our peace and connection to the earth has gone. Its like the mind runs so much that it clouds our senses… so busy thinking about the next thing, that we don’t hear the birds chirping, don’t see the sun shining, don’t feel the blood pumping. The tastelessness or “slipping away” feeling is a result. How much beauty and wonder goes unseen while you plot and plan and do?

One of my friends said to her teacher “yes, yes, I’m aiming at just being. But how do I DO ‘being’?” He looked at her and started laughing.

With warmth,
Matt

May 27, 2014 at 5:34 pm #57513

louise
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You may be productive, but, you cann0t be so in your spiritual life.
You are trying to control even in meditation.
Just sit quietly, as though you were sitting in front of a flowing river especially with your thoughts.
“Let go, let God”.
What are you trying to feel, there is no feeling involved.
It sounds like you are expressing depression, what are you depressed about?

May 28, 2014 at 5:56 am #57557

@Jasmine-3
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Thanks everyone 🙂

Hey SC,

Are you happy ? Do you have a mental bank of happy memories to cash on ? Are you doing things as you want them to be done or are you doing things to satisfy someone else’s expectations ?

The ONLY one reason for feeling disconnected to your original being is when you are not aligned with your being or soul or higher self. What breaks the alignment, you may ask ? When we are pretending to be someone else and not honouring our own needs or wants. So how do you realign ? Stop being someone else and become authentic YOU. How do you do that ? By practicing self acceptance, self love and self nurture everyday. I am not asking you to accept your negativity or bad habits or negative belief systems. I am asking you to accept that you are a beautiful and complete being who is on her own awesome journey in this world. You are loved and you will be looked after in every situation 🙂

Can I recommend the following meditation to see if it makes any difference to your mental chatter, pls ?

You don’t have to do anything except for close your eyes and listen to the sounds in a dark room. You can think as much as you want 🙂 it is only 10 mins. I am pretty confident that after a few days, You will see a positive change in your reflection of the world and self.

Sending you loads of positive energy,

Jasmine
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