Dear Eli:

You are welcome. What  he told you, “I can not count on you and you don’t give me  any power to move mountain for you and leave my wife” makes  no sense: the power to get a divorce is his, his wife and the courts, not yours. You don’t have the power to go to the courts and say: I want that  man to divorce that  woman. He has to request a divorce, or she has to request it.

Regarding his claim that you are not stable, I suppose as a thing, an object, you are not  stable. If you were really a thing, then for a thing you  are  unstable. But a human, unlike a  thing, has feelings, happy at one time, sad  at another,  scared or  angry. He too is unstable  that way.

anita

Dear Eli:

You are welcome. I will be  looking forward to your posts and updates. I hope you do post every day. I do wish you luck and good choices, small and big, every step of  your way. Take good care of yourself. I will soon be away from the computer and back in about sixteen hours.

anita

Dear Eli:

Thank you.  I like talking with you too. I will be here for you when you return, every day.

anita

Dear Eli:

Congratulations for doing all the right things. Remember  I wrote to you that I don’t have the right to  have power over your life, that no one on this site does? It is still true. This is because I  am not there  now with you to help you, to be  there in person and  make life easier for you, less difficult.

But I  have been in your place many times.  I had the difficult life that you are having now and  I was all alone. I  wish I kept  doing the  right things for myself at those  times, instead of giving  up and  giving in, going  back to  bad relationships and  situations or going to new relationships  or situations that were as bad or  worse.

The key now is to not do that, to not give up even though you feel fear and anger. Persist, don’t give up on doing  what  is right  for you.

When this man told you that even  your family doesn’t  love you (I don’t remember the  exact words), he meant that you don’t have value  because  your family, your mother for one, doesn’t love you or doesn’t see the value in you. He was very wrong.

See,  my mother didn’t  see the value in me, but not  because I didn’t  have value. She was  blind  to me and  my  value. She saw me as an object, a thing, not a person.

Keep your value as a person in mind, and  keep doing  what is right  for you regardless of  how you feel. Post anytime and Merry Christmas to you too.

anita

Dear Eli:

I don’t communicate with anyone really, almost no one, on regular email.

I don’t see how information shared here can hurt you. Maybe  it  can, but can you tell me how it can possibly hurt you?

And maybe you can describe the situation without a very specific detail and still make yourself clear enough?

anita

Dear Eli:

One thing you are worried about is someone reading this thread and figuring out who you are and who this man is that you wrote about. One solution is that you no longer post  on this thread and start a new thread. When you leave this thread alone it will no longer appear on the first page and move back to back pages. You and I can continue to communicate on a new thread where no details about this man will be mentioned. It is easy to start a new thread, as easy  as it was  starting  this thread.

Would you like to do this next? if so, I will wait half an hour or so for your new thread and will respond to it  next.

anita

Dear Eli:

What I understand from your recent few posts is that you presented untrue  information to people and online regarding a job title and your education. Was the presentation of such false information illegal though?

If it is illegal I understand your concern and you are welcome to not answer my question in this post. You are welcome to not post again as well. Start a  new thread or not.

I think that the chances that someone you know will be reading your thread here is very small, it being that members  here are from all  over the world, and as far as I know, there are not too many people participating in the Forums, many come and go, so at any one time, not a lot  of  people are reading these posts, I don’t think.

anita