Dear BeachGirl:

More than 2 years ago, in your August 2019 thread, you shared that your husband, a truck driver,  talked you into sending this woman, his former dispatcher,  $850 to pay for a fine she owed, and you caught him “texting her good morning beautiful, complaining about me and saying I was just with him for a meal ticket“.

Fast forward 2 years and a month, she reached out to him yet again, you are upset and his response: “He’s mad at me for not trusting him and says I don’t allow him to have friends“- that (1) he is referring to this woman as “a friend”, and (2) that he transfers the responsibility for his wrongdoing to you, blaming you for not trusting him (instead of acknowledging that he has been less than trustworthy)… these two things infuriate me, even though I am not there in your shoes!

“Do I have a right to be mad or am I overreacting?“- you do have a right to be angry, and you didn’t mention any behavior on your part that is an over-reaction.

“I don’t know what more to say to get him to understand how I feel“- reads to me that he understands how you feel but doesn’t care much.

“Anyone have any advice?”- separate from him and file for a divorce. Don’t back off.

anita