Quick Update.

We carried on seeing each other up until this week. I was supportive in every way I could be. The father wants to be involved and would like the two of them to give it a go. I have taken a step back and will remian friends with the girl but in reality will leave her to make her own mind if she wants to give it a go with the dad etc or just be on her own. Maybe later down the line we can re-connect and date again but I think the most important thing at this point is for her to focus on the baby and do what she sees best for her.

I had grown to like this girl so I do a feel a little down about it as it is back to the drawing board in terms of dating for me.

Thanks Anita, Your replies always do help add some perspective. I think that the daunting thing for me is that I live alone so it is the worry of overthinking and fear of being alone that perhaps bothers me.

Thanks Anita,

A lot of my close friends have settled down etc so I do feel a little left behind even though I know it is not healthy for me to compare like this.  I will dust  myself down in due course and put myself out there again when ready.

Thanks Anita, I will do this.

One thing i would like your opinion on is whether I should message this girl again. It ended amicably and we said we would stay friends but we haven’t spoke since. I am having a bit of a social media detox and don’t have any of the apps on my  phone so will not see any updates etc about her or when the baby maybe born. My account is still active though.

Shoukd i let her know this so she doesn’t think I am rude or I should not even worry about it and just get on with things? I haven’t heard from her at all like I said and I’m sure she isn’t worrying about me.

I don’t know that she will think that. It’s just in my nature to think that she would but I would think that about anyone, not just specifically her if that makes sense.

But I don’t if asking will help me move on. She like me has the option to reach out so if neither of us do then I guess we are both just moving on.

I am not worried as such but as i was there along the pregnancy feel i should send a congratulations message when the time arrives.

I will play it by here and see how i feel when the time arrives in 6 weeks or so.

Thanks for your replies, much appreciated.

Hi Anita,

She reached out to me last night via message and just asked if we are still friends.

I replied and said yes and we exchanged a couple of short messages. I actually feel better as a result of this as it has allowed me to see there is no ill feeling from her towards me and visa versa.