Jill,

You said, “There were too many things about him that I didn’t care for and that weren’t compatible with my needs. Instead, while with him, I tried to please him. Tried to adapt to his life and devalued myself.”

I find myself doing that also.
Why do we do that?
Is it low self-esteem?
Is it the way were raised?
Is it in our nature/ part of our personality?
??? ???

Maybe it’s a combination of things. I do know, I don’t like it. I know I’m a people pleaser. I have a difficult time saying, “no”. I see others doing what you mentioned above and I hate it and speak on it. That’s hypocritical of me, isn’t it? I guess I see in them, what I don’t like in myself.