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  • November 27, 2017 at 3:56 am #179533
    Anonymous
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    Dear JuzzzMeee:

    It reads to me that  ending this relationship is the right thing to do because you had the right to ask him about meeting the younger woman from work, after work, because the  reason  he gave you for meeting her doesn’t  make  sense, because it is not fair that  you have been paying for all expenses while dating and it  wouldn’t have  been fair for you to continue to  do wo, and because being forty eight does not mean a person should stay in a relationship that is not right or fair.

    anita

    November 27, 2017 at 6:57 am #179547
    Eliana
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    Hi Juzzzmeee,

    I think you are doing the right thing. There is too much complication and vagueness, flying off the handle on his part, where he is no longer putting any energy to invest in the relationship. Whether it is because of this woman, something is going on, he is treating you with disrespect and is not available for a relationship with you at this time. He can’t be honest as well about this woman, instead of laying your fears to rest, he gets angry. Something is very wrong with this type of behavior. I also believe he is not being honest, he can give her the documents at work, not meeting her after work. Don’t believe that for a second. I think the relationship does not sound promising, and you deserve a relationship with a mature, loving, honest and emotionally available man.

    November 27, 2017 at 7:38 pm #179643
    JuzzzMeee
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    Thank you, anita and Eliana.

    I also discovered the reason he quit talking to me is because I made a huge mistake!   I was crying in the bathroom at work and this lady who is known to be a gossip asked me if i was alright and i very stupidly vented to her.   Now i find out, she went and told him the things I told her.  I am so mad at myself right now!!!!!

    My job sounds like high school all over again, huh?

    November 28, 2017 at 5:10 am #179683
    Anonymous
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    Dear JuzzzMeee:

    This is why some recommend to not mix work and romance, your crying and venting episode. That was a mistake because it can hurt you and others as employees and hurt the business, but it was not a mistake as  in hurting the relationship. The relationship ending is not a bad thing, I don’t think.

    anita

    December 6, 2017 at 7:10 pm #180853
    JuzzzMeee
    Participant

    It has been almost 2, weeks without any contact between my ex boyfriend and I.  I really want to text him and see if we can at least talk.  I miss him so much!  But another part of me tells me I should just let it be.   I really hope this pain goes away!  Any thoughts or opinions will be happily acceptec.

    December 7, 2017 at 4:27 am #180895
    Anonymous
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    Dear JuzzzMeee:

    I do hope your pain goes  away.

    I was wondering, regarding your original post, why you are  the  one who paid for everything, for the dates with this man; how did it come about that you paid for everything?

    anita

    December 7, 2017 at 4:56 am #180899
    JuzzzMeee
    Participant

    Anira~

    I always ended up paying for everything because he always said he was broke.

    December 7, 2017 at 5:14 am #180905
    Anonymous
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    Dear JuzzzMeee:

    Did you ask him why he was always broke? If you asked him, did he  answer, or did he volunteer the information of why he was always broke?

    anita

    December 7, 2017 at 3:58 pm #181011
    Eliana
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    Hi Juzzzmee,

    I think you did the right thing. Let’s say, you were to get back with him. Would things change? Probably not. You would end up right back where you were before paying for everything. Eventually, it would again, take a toll on you, and you would start feeling resentful. I know you miss him..but the pain will start to fade. You deserve better. A man who is not always broke. Let’s say you two got married. Would you have to pay for all the costs of the wedding, etc..home..etc? Just some things to ponder. Let someone take ccare of you.

    December 8, 2017 at 4:14 am #181055
    Eliana
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    not submitted correctly.

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