Hello dear,

You may want to consider why you are involved with someone who is depressed and bipolar. You deserve better, this is mental illness and it will never really be a healthy relationship. There are other people who are more worthy of your time and energy. Please think about what kind of person you want to be with. Start to look at your own desires…what is your ideal man? If you become clear what you want, you can then see that he isn’t meeting your expectations. Not the other way around. Empower yourself.

You don’t have to spend time waiting for him to get it together. You do have more capacity to love yourself and to explore your own desire for a happy life.

Depression is serious and often people don’t want to come out of it, they like the attention they get from being sick.

Hope this helps.

Monica
resurrectedmind.com

Hi Zee
Hope you are doing well.
No worries at all, I am more that happy to be of an encouragement, even if it is only a little that I can do
As Monica mentioned correctly, people with depression will go through cycles (sometimes very long) & repeating periods of depression. I have been there myself. I also know people who had bad cases of depression.
Get to know more of the type of depression he is suffering from (Bi-polar in your boyfriend case). Read more about the illness, join support groups, get more insights on how people (who have loved ones, family members who have Bi-polar) manage and deal with this order.
You do understand that this disorder will be ongoing and will not be something that can be cure immediately with medicines or in a time period/frame , he will sometimes be happy and will different the very next day.
If you choose to commit to this relationship (and I know that you love him), be prepare and be strong when things looks like it is getting worse for him (mood change etc)
Do not worry so much about sending a message to him or waiting a message from him now, I know the wait can be a struggle, I also hope that my ex writes to me, there never a day that I am not waiting.
Send him a “hi how are you” or “Just to let you know I am always here when you need me” type of msg sometimes.
Do what you can now, take the extra time you have now to do things you do not have a chance to do.
Praying that all will be well for you, do keep us posted

Howard