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September 18, 2016 at 12:25 pm #115536
AnonymousInactiveI’m suicidal too OP. Was going to end my life tonight, plan backfired and was sent to the hospital for 5 hrs for an extremely high blood pressure for overdosing on antidepressants all last week.
September 19, 2016 at 2:39 am #115582AnonymousInactiveHi there.
You’re not alone. First you need to remove from your head what you cannot control and what is making you feel bad. Focus on you !Second I am offering my friendship for you in order to get you back and show that even strangers can help you to become happy person.
I am inviting you so I can make you laugh and help to remove unnecessary blockages that holding you back.
1. Focus on positive sides of yours
2. Stop controlling uncontrollable
3. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad
4. Positive affirmation every morning
5. Meditate (youtube) stress relief
6. Love yourselfThink my offer through. I Am here , I am sending love and protection for you.
Bless you xxxSeptember 20, 2016 at 3:10 pm #115733
NoneParticipantTo anita:
I tried doing the evaluating stuff but human behaviour and relationships are not like science they change and sometimes you don’t know where did it come from. A person can act like the sweetest living creature in the begining and the greatest villain in the end. That is why I am trapped here- I cannot trust people’s intentions cuz there is no way I get to know them for real and I end up wanting to spend time with someone and because I don’t trust the “outside” peopel I turn to my family which is ignorant to my pain… It’s really complicated :X
To H8full8:
I am not pretty sure to whom you are sending the message- to me or to the guy above.
September 20, 2016 at 7:49 pm #115749AnonymousGuestDear None:
You can evaluate. Let’s say a person acts “like the sweetest living creature in the beginning” but later he acts like “the greatest villain” – how can you tell he is a villain at first when he acts so sweetly?
1. Pay attention to how he talks about others, is he as sweet about others as he is with you? Or does he hate everyone and is only sweet to you?
2. Pay attention to how he behaves with others, how he treats others in your presence: is he as sweet to them?
3. Ask yourself what is his motivation with you: what does he want from you? is his sweetness specific to a person he wants something from, something like physical intimacy?
4. Notice how his anger looks like. How does he/she act when he doesn’t get what he wants?There is so much more. If a person is so sweet to you, don’t overdose on the sugar but keep your eyes open, learn over time.
And if a person is rude to you, disrespectful, acting as if you are unimportant, stay away from that person, be it a stranger or a family member.
anita
September 21, 2016 at 1:52 am #115767AnonymousInactiveYes. My post is to You .
What I meant was if you are strong enough to talk about your dilemma than you’re atrong enough to try last one time. I highly recommend this website for you. Give yourself some time and try. Be the master of your own world.
Emotional Intelligence Leads to Personal Achievement, Happiness, and Professional Success
Xxx
September 21, 2016 at 9:23 am #115800NoneParticipantTo anita:
How about the change of the person you once knew(for instance, a friend of mine) is probably because of my behaviour towards him/her. How about he/she expected something that I could not give , let’s say here he/she wanted understanding that I could not provide him/her during a period he/she needed it most. Your written words are like the words dwelling in my mind, yet there are always so many sides of the story and unfortunatelly not everyone is ready to step out of their shoes and get in the other person’s shoes. This is why every time I think of such things I sink in sorrow more and more.
September 21, 2016 at 9:28 am #115802AnonymousGuestDear None:
I would like to understand better what you mean, in your last post. Maybe if you give me a specific example of a relationship situation in your life, that still bothers you, that you want to look into? If you describe the situation specifically enough (provide only the details you feel comfortable providing)- I can help you with evaluating the person and the situation.
anita
September 21, 2016 at 9:35 am #115803NoneParticipantTo H8full8:
I am strong to talk about the dilemma only when I share it with strangers otherwise I will never have that coversation with my family or friends cuz either they are chnaging the topic when I got the courage to lead that converstation or they just are not listening to me and when I get insistent they start a fight or leave the room.
Thanks for the article it was useful and goes hand in hand with Daniel Coleman’s book “Emotional intelligence” that I am reading right now. I hope it helps me and I follow the things I learnt from bothe the article and the book in life without destroying everything that i got- believe me I am really good at that and I am a person with little luck.
September 21, 2016 at 9:47 am #115804NoneParticipantTo anita:
How about a friend that I have been close with and we share all kind of stuff- personal thoughts and attitude towars the others that we both know, for instance. How do I evaluate such close peorson to me when he/she is acting like the friends everybody dreams of, cares for you, wants to be wth you and listen to you and in the same time talks bad about people that he/she previously has known and is not with them anymore (it could have been my friend’s friend that deserves it how could I have known), acts kindly to my other friends , yet when we that special friend of mine is with me talks bad about them again. Moreover, he/she wants to talk with me everyday and por conversations could last forever and it feel great, but when it comes to him/her meeting friends that I won’t like he/she will expect me to call him/her so that he/she could have the reson to het rid of that friends and then come to me, yet he/she won’t do that unless there is a certainty that I for sure will be with himher when he needs me. It sound kin of strange put in such ways and I am little confused how to describe it but if you don’t get it I will try to be more precise.
September 21, 2016 at 9:53 am #115805NoneParticipantI forgot to end the situation- everything that has been between me and my friend ends when I don’t call and write to him/her cuz he/she has given me the order not to when he/she is with that friends I can’t stand. So I got to obey and finally that friend of mine is durious and now won’t even wanna talk with me, listen or see me when I call or write. So I got the orders and I followed them strictly and now I am guilty again and I don’t even know why cuz my friend will never probably share what has happened and will lie and deceive me anytime possible. So shall I try to talk when my friend doesn\t want to or shall I walk out of his/her life and go on…?!?
September 21, 2016 at 10:32 am #115810AnonymousGuestDear None:
I understood part of your example.
First I want to comment about what you wrote about your family: ” either they are changing the topic when I got the courage to lead that conversation or they just are not listening to me and when I get insistent they start a fight or leave the room.”
From your description above, your family members (the ones you are referring to here) are not interested in listening to you, do not support you or help you and instead, they turn against you and fight or leave you alone, abandon you when you need them.
I wonder if you are living with these rejecting, non-supportive family members who fight you instead of help you?
As to your example, the part that I did understand: you wrote about the friend:: “he/she is acting like the friends everybody dreams of, cares for you, wants to be with you and listen to you” – so far all the things your family members do not do. No wonder these mean a lot to you!
So that friend talks badly about people he/ she knew in the past but you don’t know. And he talks badly about your friends behind their back, to you, but not to them personally.
Your friend may be communicating to people only the positive feelings in their presence, keeping his negative feelings for them hidden. Then outside their presence he expresses his negative feelings. If this is his pattern, then he may be having the positive feelings for you but he is also having negative feelings for you. He won’t express them to you. But probably to others, outside your presence.
I didn’t understand the part about you obeying your friend…?
anita
September 21, 2016 at 11:36 am #115823NoneParticipantI came to the same conclusion that you arrived above- that my friend will talk negatively about me when with others. The obeying situation is little confusing, I must agree. To make things clear ot at least try my friend has friends that I don’t apporve of and he/she is still with them. He/she talks bad about them too but only in my presence , not theirs. We had an agreement which was – my friend spending some time with that company for some time and in this time I cannot contact him because of them and my friend told me not to. Anyway, something happened and for God only knows why my friend tried to contact me during the time with his/ her friends I don’t approve of and it happened that way deactivated my account via which my friend was seeking/ anyway, he/she had other social account to reach me/me and now she/he will gnorant just like my family and won’t be like she/he was before. So I think I got something wrong and my friedn is not willing to share what was it and that really can get me angry and it si not like I did not try to conntact him/her after that time.
Given my family convesrastions situation you can understand how much i need a friend like the one I descpribed my friedns was before these events. And now there is something wrong and I asm thinking that the kind and sweet nature of my friend was only a facade for God know what. But the other thing is- i feel that I cannot communicate with my friedns while I am with my friend just because he/she is jealous, yet he/she can do whatever he/she wants and the blame will be in me again.
September 21, 2016 at 8:54 pm #115850AnonymousGuestDear None:
Will be back at the computer in 12 hours or so. Will read your latest post and reply then. Please take care of yourself- be good to you!
anita
September 22, 2016 at 12:14 am #115861AnonymousInactiveWell ,talking to your friend is natural and I think if you will try you will gain some knowledge. Haven’t you thought that he/she talked about someone because that person could have hurt him/her in some kind of way?
If you talked about certain behaviours of someone which is not right than maybe he/she is not a bad person and if you really know your friend than there should be no doubt.
Losing best friend is a kind of nightmare but bringing the light and KNOWING what’s going on and why is always good.
Good luck to you.
September 22, 2016 at 12:26 am #115863AnonymousInactiveAnd the emotional intelligence – app is good as well and I’ve started it few days ago, reading everyday a little bit always works well.
I wanted to say that jealousy is not good at all. It’s like you’re limiting yourself from someone because someone is jealous. Dude sit down in peace and clean up your mess.
To me it sound a little like a TV drama for children .. why people get themselves in that situation?
Relationships ‘ should be unconditional, without jealousy, drama , silence . .So is good to think before we act right. Xxx
Peace
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