Hi lh,

I’m well into mid-life and I still can totally feel the pain of rejection. What helps me to move forward is acknowledging my feelings – “looking” at them – and not hurrying to feel different.  They seem to change with time,  just like everything else.

The best thing you can do for HER is to not do anything to help her with her feelings. She gave you the message that she doesn’t want any more closeness. I’d suggest that you continue being polite, genuinely yourself, but avoid the temptation of finding reasons to be around her.

I’m glad you reached out for support. These things are never easy, and congrats on taking a risk. Eventually when you show your heart, someone will welcome it.  Craig