Did you mean using my sense of humour? Yeah, I have been doing that all along. I did message her at about six yesterday. I kept it light and didn’t get serious about anything. She never responded back but she is on that site a lot . I think I send too long of messages and I didn’t message her today.

People say that I should let her message me back but I don’t know if that will come. Now I notice an uncomfortable feeling that I can only try to explain. I didn’t have much with her, and who knows if I will have anything, but it reminds me a little of the rejection I felt when my marriage ended. Nothing close to the level I felt then, but something.

That is one of the things I hate about online dating. People are very fickle and it is so disconnected.

I should be stretching my comfort zone. Sometimes, I am just too tired after work or just too broke.

Before we had our date, and just after we spent that time together,I was becoming so comfortable in my skin. I was at ease and I felt like I could something special with this woman. Now, I’m getting all edgy and unsure of everything. I think women just drive me nuts.

Thanks Pooch,

I know what everyone is saying, and I do understand it. Dwelling on something like this terrible for a person. I think people have little battles within themselves. They know what the right thing to do is, but they try to do the wrong thing that will only end up hurting themselves.

I think my biggest hurdle is letting things with women I meet, progress at the pace it is going to progress. I haven’t had love in my life for years, and now that I am starting to become the person I use to be again, I want to share that with someone who deserves it.

Hi everyone,
It’s been a while since I posted here, and this is something on my mind, and I have been able to get some very good advice from a lot of people here. Most of it is just common sense that I already know, but I doesn’t seem to click sometimes.

Ok, enough jibber jabber. I’m very attracted to a woman that I met online and then in person. She said she is a slow mover and I was willing to go that course and see how things went. I’m doing what ever I can to be patient and see how things progress. I don’t text her as often and she is responding back when I do. Maybe it’s a time thing.

She took her daughter on a little getaway this weekend. We texted on Saturday and it was light and fun. I sent her a picture of the plating presentation my younger son made for my older son’s birthday breakfast in bed. (He is 11 and watches the food network way too much 🙂 ) She said it looked amazing.
Today she sent me a picture of her and her daughter on a kiddy ride at the amusement park they went to. I told her that I told my son that she thought that his plate looked amazing. She asked if my kids know who she is. I said that I told him that someone I know thought it looked nice. I said ” I see” and that was the end of texting.

I went on to explain that She knows that I want to get to know her better but no matter who I become close to, I wouldn’t want to rush that person or my sons into any situation too quickly. My ex did that to them on two different occasions and they were very uncomfortable.
Then I let her know she would be a great person to introduce to anyone, but I didn’t think it would make sense at this time. I thought that she maybe asked because she thought I was mentioning her to my kids already. I said that I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable.

My problem is trying to read this situation. She holds back a lot so I spend time trying to figure it out. Sometimes, I think that she doesn’t want to get hurt again, and she is very guarded. With her, I’m not sure how quickly I can move with her. I want to ask her out again but I don’t know if I am pushing too much. It’s been two weeks since we met.

I am meeting another woman I’ve been talking to today. She is pretty easy going, divorced for a long time, and has been in the dating game a while. I just want to see how that goes.

One other woman that I have been talking to is probably the example that I shouldn’t be. I’m seeing what I possibly look like sometimes to the woman that I am most attracted to. Her messages are becoming more needy, and she keeps saying how we are so much alike, and we have to meet. I understand that she is looking for a connection with someone. I am too but I just don’t know if it’s her. Also, I don’t say things like that to the woman I am most attracted to.

I feel like I say too much to the woman I am most interested in. Maybe some of the messages she reads, she just feels good about but doesn’t think she has to message back. I’m a little stuck about how to approach her. How much space do I keep giving her?
I don’t even know when to ask her out again. I don’t know if she was offended or relieved that my kids don’t know who she is ? If things ever more forward with her, and something grows from this, she would be a woman I would love for my sons to meet.

Is that last sentence something I should text her or would that be too much?

The saga continues. I think I am creating situations for myself where I set myself up to fail with women that I meet. The woman that I was hung up on, I just decided to mellow out on that situation. I went out with someone else and had a great time. Now I really like this one too. The problem is, when that first date magic happens, I go overboard with my compliments and how much I like them after that meeting.
The second woman is definitely not dragging her feet and says she had an immediate attraction to me. She wants to see me and asks when we are getting together again. I feel if I don’t take action with her, that opportunity will pass. She also has kids. There is pretty much no chance of me finding a woman without them. Hers are 16 and 14 though. The other woman’s is 2.

Where do you go from here? I’m a pretty mellow guy. The first woman I met is very relaxed but a little aloof. She is still texting me though. The second one is higher energy which is nice too. She kind of amps me up and makes me want to be with her. She wants a relationship for sure.
I feel that it could be time to focus my energy on one person but I don’t want to move too fast.
This is something I didn’t even deal with before I was married. It’s a different place to be.

I am confused right now. I took some good advice, decided to be patient with the first woman that I liked and went on a couple of dates with the other woman I was talking to. Where the first woman is guarded and doesn’t show much to me. The second woman let me know that she was attracted right away.

I was attracted to her too. We’ve had two dates and they were both romantic. I think I texted her too much, and I think I complimented her too much. Now she wants to slow things down because she feels like things were moving too fast. I agreed with her because I like her a lot but it’s frustrating. She was just as open about her feelings and even more so than I was. The problem is, I care about her already, and I want to know her.

It’s strange because when one of the women cools down, the other one warms up. On Saturday I saw the second woman and it was romantic. It was such a good feeling being with her. On Sunday, I was supposed to go on a date with the first woman. When I got to her place, I had the funniest date in a long time. We set up her new bed and then went for supper together. The funniest part was, I enjoyed helping her do that. I was a great time and we laughed a lot.

Just when I think nothing will happen with her, she is giving me a huge hug and kissing me on her front lawn. After the second woman texted that we should slow down, the first woman texts and wants to go for a date on Friday. I don’t want to carry this on for a long time. I’ve always been a one woman man and that woman knows that they are the only one for me. It just feels like I don’t know where I stand with either one of them now.

I’m not going to text the second woman for a few days. She still wants a date on Sunday and says she still likes me. I like her a lot. She stirred a lot of emotions in me that I haven’t felt in a long time. Maybe the first woman is a slow builder and wants to see if something can really happen between us. She isn’t sentimental and doesn’t care much for romance.

I’m just confused. I like the second woman and now she pulled away a little. I like the first woman but I haven’t a clue where she stands with anything to do with me.
Can anyone help me here? Either that or a little reassurance that if I don’t worry about it, things will work out for the best.