Hey Matt,

No, both times I complimented her wasn’t about her appearance. Personally, I would find it to be difficult to be attracted to someone who has nothing to offer but a pretty face. It was about her personality the second time when I complimented her.

I can’t let this bother me because you can’t know what people are thinking. It possible that she thought about things differently when she left, I don’t know. I do know that it’s different than when I dated before. The other person and myself will have more responsibilities and less time. I guess there are lots of women out there. She just really struck a chord with me. It felt right. Maybe it still will with her. I’ll try to be patient.

I went on the dating site again to check if anyone who messaged me today and it shows if people are online. The woman I met was online. I know that we have nothing right now, but she doesn’t respond to me, and she is online. It kind of just gives you mixed signals.
If I felt that I could maybe work at something with her. I would be off of there immediately. I like to focus on one person, not a bunch of them. It’s confusing.

Hi Pamela and Matt, and anyone who wants to give me their input into what I am thinking of doing.

I want to send her a text and this is what I am planning to say in it, and it is based on some of the things we talked about on our date. By the way, we shared the same circumstances of our previous relationships breaking up. We were both cheated on.

This is what I want to send her.
” Hi, I just wanted to say one more thing. You said you get tired of people when you’re just texting them, and the novelty wears off for you. Your life is busy and you can’t sit on the phone asking, ” How’s your day?” I know it lose its impact after a while through texting.

I don’t know how interested you are, but yeah, I’m interested I you, and I would like to get to know you better.
I have never been a person who tries to get together with multiple people. If I meet someone who has something special about them, they get my attention.
I don’t know if this is off putting or not for you. It’s kind of a damned if you do, and damned if you don’t situation for me. Basically, I just wanted to straight forward and honest with you. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.”

that’s what I am thinking of sending. What are your thoughts?

Well, Big Blue.
Maybe I blew it then because I sent that message, and didn’t alter it at all. I’m trying to be patient but I think I sometimes want things to move quicker. I’ve definitely been overthinking now. She did send nice messages today but she kept it lighter than the one I sent at the end of the day. This whole online dating thing is somewhat annoying. I know there is not much between me and any woman I have talked with, even if we went out on a date, but you aren’t sure where you might stand if they are still online regularly.

Big Blue, I took a leap of faith and told her how I felt about things. I am a sincere person and I wasn’t thinking about if ” I just” was good or bad to use. I don’t think anything I said was too terrible ,but I don’t know how other people think, especially women. If I received that message, I would probably think that the person listened to what I said, tries to understand what I have going on in my life, and that they are looking for one special person, and not playing any mind games with them.

There was an ease about our date and I felt a connectedness that I haven’t felt with anyone in a long time.

Now after sending that, I don’t know what to do. Don’t message her for a bit. Send her messages like this one didn’t happen. Ask her out again. Go on other dates too. A couple of other women keep messaging me, but I have this old fashioned belief that I am supposed to not do that, if I am trying to see what happens with this one.
It probably doesn’t matter, she didn’t respond to the message I sent. I’m going to guess that I scared her off.

I haven’t done anything as far as trying to date elsewhere. I don’t belong to any organizations and I am too focused on getting good produce to hit on women at the super market.

If my chances are done, it’s a shame. She has a great personality, attractive, a caring parent, and she is a hard worker. I would still love an opportunity to get to know her better. It kind of feels like bearing a bit of your soul , and sharing something in a sincere and honest way isn’t a good thing to do anymore.

Hey Pooch ( If that even is your real name),

There are two other women that really want to meet me. It is just annoying to get mixed signals from one that you built up a nice rapport with, and that seems like someone that you should have know, for a long time. Maybe it’s only me that feels this much.

I texted her one more time that day. She never got back to me. Still hasn’t today so I’m not sure what is what. Plus, I went online a couple of times yesterday to check messages, and she is on there. It kind of messes with your head.
I have talked to some family about it and they suggested that I let her get back to me. I’m thinking, “what if she doesn’t?” then do I get back to her again?
Honestly, I’m too old for this high school crap so I don’t know what I will do. This is stuff I haven’t had to deal with for a long time, and I didn’t miss it. I guess I’ll be patient for now.

Also, I’m actually thinking of going out with one of the women who want to meet me, but I’m a little tore about it. Wait and see if a woman you really like and have a rapport with will open up to you, or go out with other women, and maybe not feel on edge about the situation. It’s a struggle because I don’t want to hurt or use anyone.