Dear Test41:

“Am I being lazy here or is she right?”- You are not being lazy, and she is wrong.

Covid took your wife’s health away from her (hopefully she will recover soon), it took your job away from you, and it separate your toddler from his (or her) parents. Next, your wife is taking away your peace-of mind and ability to concentrate, by harassing and pestering you.

Instead of your wife uniting with you in these difficult times, being one of a a team of two, working for the common cause, which is your family of three, she is hurting the family.

Did she pester you and has she been a demanding wife before Covid?

anita

Dear Test41:

You are welcome. The situation is that:

-Your wife is sick with Covid, and your toddler lives with her parents, for his protection. (Any idea how she contracted Covid and whether you are positive for the virus?),

– You are living in a developing country where the pandemic recently worsened, maybe India (?)

– You and your wife “can ride out a few months or even a year” without you being employed, and yet she insists that you go out and find a job ASAP, so that you can all move back to Singapore where she can enjoy a better lifestyle.

As a result of her insistence and pestering, you “feel like a lone wolf standing against the world.. like I am losing my connection with her due to her behavior and will for the rest of my life just commit to being a workaholic and providing for my family. I will make my work my refuge so that I don’t have to spend much time with my wife”-

– this is not a good solution for you to be a workaholic lone wolf, slaving your life away so that she can enjoy a better lifestyle. If you do that, you will not be available to your child and to any future children you may have: they will grow up without a father (other than a very sad, lonely and overworked person who brings in the money). They will grow up with a selfish mother who places a lifestyle above her family. Consider separating from your wife and ending the marriage, is my advice.

anita