Sophie,

My wife does the same thing, its as though she is charging boldly into the unknown and “home” or “our relationship” seems like a distraction. Her attention is on the next task, the next evolution of her business, the next dodad. She forgets to eat, and just goes goes goes.

I find it amusing and inspiring. What I do is call her home, help her remember the beauty and nourishment that arises when we have our heartfelt intimacy, when we join in spirit and take time to rest with one another. I don’t take her gogogo personally, it doesn’t really have anything to do with me. It doesn’t have anything to do with her commitment to our intimacy. It doesn’t have anything to do with her view of me. Its just how her creativity works. She has a spark, it catches flame, then she uses that to grow and shift her world.

The reason it doesn’t bother me is because as she flies away, I spend time growing my roots deep into the earth and remain grounded. Where she is chaos, I am stability. I meditate, write, share and heal the world where I can, when I can. This keeps me in tune with my own creative spirit, so as she flies home, my fluid call to her heart helps her land, rest.

However, sometimes I become ungrounded, unstable. I forget that we work with a basic fertility. For instance, if she is busy thinking about her work while we are spending time together, my feelings might get hurt. Then I forget that I have the power to call her home, and become resentful that she isn’t there with me. She’s off in her head, flying through the past or future, and I want her attention. The solution for me is always a few deep breaths and then I jump in after her. My heartsong pours toward her, calling to her, reminding her, expressing my love. Her clouds clear, and she lands. Sometimes she even smiles and says “oh, I remember. Hi!”

With warmth,
Matt

No that was the first time I ever said that. Was that a generic reply or are you confusing me with someone else?