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  • October 21, 2014 at 9:51 pm #66626
    Steve
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    I’m no “agony aunt”, but I have been through a similar situation…although not based on a religious issue. The first lesson I learnt was that that there is no “right” way to proceed. There are no “rules” and there is no text book. The eventual decision you make WILL be the right one. What happens after that decision is made might be a different story…and you may have to tweak or adjust or change your plans further. Life’s funny like that…and we have to just cope with what happens, when it happens. So, if it was me, I would make a decision based on how I feel NOW…not on the millions of possible future scenarios. I would definitely not base it on what others believe I should do. That would really set me up for failure. I would go forward using my best judgement and deal with the future as it unfolds. Best of luck.

    October 21, 2014 at 10:41 pm #66629
    StayHappy
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    I completely agree with Steve. Your decision should be based on what you feel now! Your thoughts on the future or what other people may think are only thoughts at the end of the day. They have no existence. Do what feels right! Good luck!

    October 23, 2014 at 2:04 pm #66698
    Lily
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    Thank you both for the reply. So far I have been able to do what feels right for me. The challenging part is that what I’m feeling changes so frequently, moment to moment, really. Its hard to pin down a decision when feelings don’t last and there isn’t a peace with any one direction. I understand there isn’t a right answer, and there will be many more decisions still to come no matter which direction I choose. I guess I really am caught in fear of all the what if’s.

    October 23, 2014 at 3:39 pm #66705
    Steve
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    Lily,

    To be worrying about the future is normal. As someone once said…”if you don’t want to worry, be a plant”.
    However, as you’d know, over exuberant worrying can be paralysing….and a decision stopper.
    Most “what ifs” never ever happen. However, the trick is to, firstly accept that they may happen…that’s life.
    Secondly, we need to consider… what is the very worst thing that might happen, if the what ifs come true. Will you die from them?
    Probably not. Your life may be detoured or you may have to change plans…but that can often, in itself, bring other exciting things to your life.
    So, my tip is to release yourself to the “what ifs” and trust the Universe. Make a decision and calmly deal with the consequences of that decision…as they present themselves. You’ll find it an exhilarating trip.

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