Have a conversation with yourself. Observe how you speak and talk to yourself both out loud and internally. No one will be influencing you at that time, only you.

Try and reciprocate that next time you enter a conversation with someone. Hold true to that voice you had in your own self-talk. Own it. Find that voice, and hold on to it.

You do have your own way of speaking, like we all do.

We get influenced by expressions we hear, gestures we see and behaviors from birth to the present moment.

What you need is to grow awareness of how you speak, that is the main key here. It is obvious that you’ve put your focus on how others act and therefore, your mind follows that pattern. Our minds tend to follow what we tell them to focus on.

As an exercise, try to record yourself speaking. If it’s important to you, join your local toastmasters and there you’ll see people who develop public speaking and grow into their own area of comfort.

On the side and, as a personal suggestion, don’t make a big case out of it. You don’t lose what makes you special just because you don’t have a particular set of expressions that people associate to you.

Hello there,

I read your blog post and totally understand your problem. Infact I have faced similar problem in my life and I know this can get tricky.

Stories have been an integral part of my life and I used this effectively when speaking on a difficult subject. I found this method easier to connect with the audience I am speaking to by narrating a relevant story to the subject I want to speak about. This hooks your audience and gives the attention the topic requires.

This method worked for me and I hope that it works for you too.