Hi Anita, I have not had opportunity to tell her as she has only ever been back into the office briefly, also she is still recovering so I do not want to put her under stress.

I have told colleagues about it but it still hurts when they seem to care but as soon as ths woman walls through the door they act like her best friend. I feel like it’s a betreyal almost. If anyone does something to my friends I do not befriend that person.

From my knowledge she does not know I know, and I have no proof that they even know they hit my bike.

I would like to tell her but I don’t want to be the bad guy here nor do I want to put myself at more risk from this incident. I am more hurt that nobody seems to care about backing me up, it is like this has damaged my relationship with all of my colleagues. I know that your colleagues aren’t ‘real’ friends generally but I thought there was some factual loyalty there and it feels like that’s been taken away.

I do not think anyone would support me if I confronted her. Not even because they care about her really, I feel like they would side with her because that’s the easier position to take with less effort needed.

I’m infuriated that all I can do it accept it. It makes me so angry.

Honestly I don’t expect them to ostracize her or anything but I didn’t expect them to do a complete 180 and act like her best friend either. Prior to her surgery this woman had angered most of the office. It’s a long story but she was generally disliked, she is the kind of person who would be your friend to your face and then rat you out to management. She has actually done this to me already. My closest friend here actually hated this woman but now after the surgery she actually went to her house with a gift and is calling and texting her like best friends.

I don’t expect them to stone her and throw her out if the building but they’ve completely overlooked how she’s treated me and continue to be not just her friend but better friends than ever. As if they haven’t all hated her not long ago. And their feelings were justified, she was very unpleasant. She was a jerk to me even before all of this because I didn’t invite her friend to my wedding (her friend was another colleague who decided he didn’t like me, I never found out why).

It’s like I’m not allowed to be angry because she’s had this surgery. Even if I mention it people just react as if I’m blowing it out of proportion or being silly. They don’t say so but they don’t care and you can tell with their tone.