So it is NYC on a Saturday evening and I am walking back into a bar in the west side of the city and there she is standing in front of me, my ex girlfriend of 5 years. I had not seen my ex in a year and we have been apart for nearly 2 1/2 years. She finished the relationship for various reasons, wanting to move to NYC and live her dream. I had made mistakes in the relationship, nothing involving other people but I did need to look at myself and the breakup did make me do that. When we broke up, I came to NYC from a different country as I felt I had to try to show that I was serious about trying to get it back on the rails. To cut a long story short, this did not work so we just lived our owns lives. I was in a much better place having dealt with the pain of the breakup. I still thought of her but was able to deal with it pretty well, that is until last weekend. When I saw her, I knew that I still loved this person, it was like a box I had put in cold storage had been taken out and opened. So we chatted for a while and it was pretty sweet to be honest. I had a planned to meet a mutual friend from home at another bar so she asked if she could come along and she did. We ended up having a fun night – and yes there was alcohol involved:-) but we definitely had a connection. She told me she missed me a few times and I told her that I missed her too and still loved her. I know this may seem strong but I always believe in being honest with my emotions. Anyway, we have exchanged texts a few times since then and we are planning to meet. Now, I have all these emotions swirling around. Is she just being curious about meeting? I trust her that she would be strong enough to say no and not meet and walk away if this was the case as she knows that meeting just for the sake of it would not be fair. I would love to re-kindle the relationship but I don’t want to go through the pain and hurt that the initial breakup caused as it took me so long to deal with that. I suppose I am just looking for some neutral analysis. Should I state from the start that if she is not sure then we should not go there or should be hang out and just see where it goes?….Sorry for the long introduction but I just need to clear my head a little….Thanks for any advice in advance..btw we are both in our 30’s so not kids anymore:-)

Johnny

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