Dear glazedscarlet:
I don’t think it is too early for the “where is this going?” conversation. It actually may be too late. better having had it way ealier- the two of you talking about goals and relationship goals specifically, discussing past relationships maybe so you can figure out where he is at BEFORE getting intimately involved with him.

I would suggest having the conversation of his goals about relationships in general and the one he is having with you. You can make it a conversation where you retain your self respect, not sounding and hopefully not feeling desperate, needy and nagging. make it informational, mature, just-for-information conversationg (and feel the feelings about it later when alone, if it is not going to be what you are hoping).
anita

Hi Glazedscarlet,

Are you looking for love? If you are, then, while hanging out with this guy seems great, it may not be exactly what you’re looking for. He doesn’t say passionate things? Or is romantic in any way? The beginning of any relationship is all about the passion and the romance, and if you guys don’t have that now, maybe it’s best to be open to it elsewhere. Guys tend to get comfortable, and it’s very difficult to get them out of that.

I say be open to other men. Every girl wants a guy who makes them feel special. And if this guy isn’t, plus he’s making other women feel special, then dump him! You deserve better 🙂

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