Hi Dina,

Sorry that you are having trouble with that but I’m sure you can google about it and maybe learn or research ways to stop if you can. There are many people who do not have eyebrows that I see pencil them in and I don’t believe they are any less of a person(s) who is or as follows;

1. Who is bald

2. Someone who shaves all their hair off, whether male or female.

3. Someone who has acne on their face

4. People who pick at their face/constantly pop their pimples

5. People that have other issues that are emotional or physical ect.

Point is, people who are this way or look this way are LOVED regardless of their imperfections or to the people who believe/think they are lesser than the rest of us. Which is not TRUE. If we are looking for flaws in everyone or anyone, we can find them, if we are being judgmental and or being un-compassionate towards others. All of us have something but what is most important is to steer clear of those types of people, as those are not loving & truly compassionate people. As you’ve seen, there are lots people in this world who are bald, short, really tall, skinny, thick, muscular, penciled eyebrows (you get what I’m saying) That are married, taken, loved, single and accepted for who they are. Regardless of what they look like or what is missing. They are no different than us. 🙂

Dina, the right people will love you regardless hun and the wrong people – Well, they don’t need to exist in your journey of happiness. You don’t need that kind of negativity or judgement anyway. Your are a beautiful and perfect person, just the way you are! Look in the mirror each day you wake up and remind yourself 🙂

Have a wonderful day or evening.

Sending lots of love, positivity and light your way.

M.

I am 60 years old and have Trich since 16. Go to TLC.com. a website all related to this condition . I am worse, I pull hair out of my head. Am now with wigs, etc. The site has all sorts of helpful advice, and able to give great tips for lessening the habit.

Dear Dina:

Thinking about it further, this anxiety symptom of pulling hair out is similar to my symptoms of TICS (Tourette Syndrome) and the COMPULSIONS of OCD, both of which I have a long, long history with. If you would like, Dina, to explore further here with me, this symptom of yours, how it operates, how it feels, what is behind it and following it … please let me know and we can go back and forth about it.

Of course it is best that you attend psychotherapy with a competent, experienced, caring, hard working and dedicated psychotherapist. I am not a psychotherapist. So what I am offering is on a I help you-you help me context. If we did communicate about fear and its symptom here, we would have to be gentle as fear is most powerful. We will have to do it in small portions so not to be overwhelmed and in our own pace.

anita

* Nan, same offer is open to you. And by the way, I watched most of The Bridges of Madison County again, taking notes, and the theme of fear goes through the movie from the beginning! This is an idea you can take or not, start a Bridges of Madison County thread.

Dear Dina:

Pulling your hair out is stress related. That’s how it started, as a way to relieve ongoing anxiety, distress. Then it became a habit. So.. any distress, even a joyful distress can trigger the habit. Even an unpleasant thought when you are otherwise relaxed can produce a split second of distress that triggers the habit.

There is a way to resist the urge. If and when you are in a state of mind ready to resist it. I resisted my OCD compulsions/ rituals when I was 30 after many years of performing to many. So I know it is possible. At that point at 30, I was able to resist. Not before that.

The things that make you anxious are so pointless, you wrote: what do you mean pointless? You want to give me an example of a pointless thing that makes you anxious?

anita