yes that is what he wants. He thinks marrying another woman will keep his parents off his back. He is under pressure because his parents are forcing him to marry.

its possible in our culture. A guy can marry more than one women. He wants to keep ours secret (buy me house etc) while the other marriage is just to fulfill social demands. I know its difficult to understand but my problem is i cant find myself leaving him. How can i be so closely attached to him?

Any discussion about that matter with him ends up with me feeling guilty and wrong. he makes me feel bad about saying no to his plans.

Exactly!! I think the same but i am afraid i may give up.

He keeps reassuring me that he will be all mine. He will not make any kind of relationship to the other woman but its just he wants his mother to be happy and i have to stand with him in this. Then i ask why ruin some other girls life when you don’t want to have any relationship with her? He says you don’t have to worry about that because that’s my problem. You just build a wall and don’t think about my other marriage and family…. Is that possible? Can a women just close her eyes and say that nothing exists. On telling him that its not possible foe me to just build a wall and pretend that things are fine… he says you are just ungrateful, i say i will be all yours and things will be all the way you want. Anyways i don’t trust him but i just don’t know how to let go.

I know he is selfish, just thinking about himself. But how do i make him understand, the discussion never ends well.

I want to do that but i can’t.

His plans do not make sense at all. I blame him too. I blame him for showing up after my marriage when i was trying to move on. I fell for him again (which is my fault… i know) but i consider him responsible. But when i blame him, he is enraged.

I want to leave him, i just don’t know how. He made my life miserable and he has the solution for it that is to make me even more miserable.

The reason i came here and asked for your opinion/advice is i can not talk to anyone else about this. I am thankful to you for taking your time and talking about it with me. I feel like i had an opportunity to move on when i got married but its like i lost it for him. I can not be with him and i can not be happy anymore. He is going to marry eventually but why did he have to snatch my happiness? I feel guilty all the time and thinking of ways to make myself happy and forget about him. But everything seems so impossible. I resent him but i don’t wanna spend my life resenting him. I just want to be happy without even thinking about him.