Dear Sara:

Reads to me that he has a lot on his plate, a whole lot, so I tend to think that the answer to “Busy or not interested” is Busy.

Problem is that you may have pressured him and that was just too much for him. In the very beginning, I am thinking, seeing you was relieving his stress. But if you pressured him while his life circumstances became more stressful in themselves (moving, ongoing contact with his parents, applying for jobs and so on), then the beginning relationship with you was no longer a relief of stress, but an increase in stress.

And it has been a beginning relationship, new. He definitely was enthusiastic though, at the very beginning. Can you handle waiting for him, lowering your expectation of the frequency of his texting and dates, if the relationship is to continue?

anita

In all honesty, it sounds like you are about be ghosted and he is just too much of a coward to let you know he isn’t interested. I would move on.

Michelle, My boyfriend of 4 years just did this same thing to me… said he was busy busy busy. And then all of a sudden he just disappeared.

Sara, I know that if a man loves a woman he will move heaven and earth to be with her.  Maybe this one is really too overwhelmed but do you really want a man that doesn’t check on you for 4 days?

I thought I couldn’t live without my ex-boyfriend but it has been a month and I am getting better. It is not easy. All the wondering like you are doing or what did he feel and did he mean it or did he lose it? Just what?

It is actually quite crushing. Mine sang me love songs, told me I was his everything, his rock, the love of his life etc. but looking back his actions didn’t line up with his words. All of a sudden he was very busy, then I suspected some lies (he was still calling every day) then he vanished.

I hope you get some answers and mostly some peace about all of this.