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  • October 16, 2013 at 4:32 pm #43888
    Amit
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    I can’t say I have been in a situation like yours, but I can only begin to imagine the pain that you are going through.

    I believe that “all the answers that I seek lie within me”. Sometimes when I am too close to a problem I don’t see the solution, which generally is right in front of me. That’s why I seek a friends help in pointing out the answer to me. Sometimes its hard for me to accept it, but when i ask my “inner self ” it generally agrees with the solution.

    In your case the answer to you situation lies within you as well. All you need to do is identify what you think will make you truly happy and go with that solution.

    What I see is that you need to connect with yourself by being in environments in which you are happy. Get your self esteem back by introspection. If your husband doesn’t want to be with you, its a tough decision for you as well to let the past go, but you will have to make it at some point. The sooner you accept that the quicker you will feel better about it. I will use a quote from the movie Kung Fu Panda “The past is history. The future is a mystery. Today is a gift, that’s why its called ‘Present'”

    Connect with your inner self through meditation and once the connection is established your inner self will guide you to a solution that will make you happy in the present, thus creating a happy future.

    Good Luck

    Amit

    October 16, 2013 at 5:35 pm #43890
    Kline
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    I agree, Amit.
    It is so much easier for someone other than yourself to see the big picture. Here is the big picture: Make a big U-turn and turn away. Life allows U-turns. There is absolutely no reason for you to continue to be in a relationship with this man. None whatsoever. I know that is hard to see because you have this feeling of love for this man. Of course you do – you invested ten years of your life into being with him. But Love is so much more than a feeling. It is beyond feelings. Love encompasses health, your truest self, the solution that “will make you Truly happy” – as Amit says. You will not be happy together with this man, either as a partner or as a friend. He will not make your life better, and he will not help you find Love in the truest sense. You have your entire life in front of you. My Buddha’s wisdom be with you.

    October 16, 2013 at 5:35 pm #43892
    Kline
    Participant

    May Buddha’s wisdom be with you, I meant to say.

    October 16, 2013 at 5:59 pm #43894
    Tricia
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    I’m no expert or anything, and I haven’t even posted yet but this hit so close to home. I have been cheated on many times – therefore I have trust issues and have never been married, but have been engaged.

    I just say if you can’t trust and you have to worry every time you turn your back on him, isn’t that too much negative energy? He’s not worth that right?

    I’m so sorry you have to feel that pain – I know how bad it hurts.

    October 17, 2013 at 4:37 am #43908
    Courageous
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    Thank you guys for your comments and for giving me your perspective. I will take each piece of advice and read it over and over until i get it through my head that the best I can do for myself is to walk away and never look back.
    Than you!!

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