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  • July 7, 2013 at 9:27 am #38108
    Sapnap3
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    My long distance boyfriend of a year and a half has broken my heart by saying he didnt love me anymore. We both tried a lot and I don’t think I was done trying. He said many things as we talked for a few days about it as I wanted to still try. First he said he was tired of fighting. we did fight a lot as we were very different people. He said that I revolved my life around him but I didnt know how to be not that way being 7 hours aways from one another. I wanted to marry him. I wanted to spend rest of my life with him. I thought we can talk about and resolve everything but he was giving up without telling me. He was also thinking of someone else. At thd end he said I wasn’t the girl he thought he loved. I have been crying, not sleeping or eating. I have been reading blogs on this site and thought I would reach out to everyone with a heart for help.

    July 7, 2013 at 1:10 pm #38122
    Matt
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    Sapnegi,

    I’m sorry for your pain and loss, and hope you find peace in time. When we experience heartbreak, it is a good time to get out and do the things we like. Maybe go for a walk, do some gardening, take a bath, listen to classical music… whatever it is that brings us comfort.

    My teacher once told me that when big emotional events happen, it is important to make space for them. When we surround ourselves with the things we enjoy, it can help soothe us. With courage, we can leave the wondering and thoughts of why and how for later… and simply allow healing.

    We know that with other parts of our body instinctively, and we “stay off the leg” after a break. It does heal with time and space, and I hope your heart mends well.

    With warmth,
    Matt

    July 7, 2013 at 1:14 pm #38123
    NoOne
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    wow…that sounds just like my ex or soon-to-be-ex (or whatever the hell he is) P.O.S. boyfriend….with minor differences in details….. He wants you to feel responsible just because he’s got no balls to admit that he was never too serious about it and now he is looking for an easy way out of it. And by putting the blame on you he gets out clean. That’s why he said that you revolved your life around him. He wants you to feel guilty so that he can avoid explaining his sorry ass. He was probably playing serious for some time but when he noticed that you really are into it for real and that you don’t consider your relationship a joke he is backing off and running. I’m dealing with almost the exact same situation, as we speak. He’s got you exactly where he wants you: feeling responsible and desperate. It’s not you, it’s HIM. So, don’t cry, start sleeping and eating…go out with your friends and celebrate it with a beer because you have just saved yourself from an obvious player. There are a lot of liars out there with absolutely no remorse what-so-ever and consider yourself lucky when you find that out on time so that you have time to run like hell from such people before they screw up your life completely.

    July 7, 2013 at 6:08 pm #38138
    Sapnap3
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    Thank you both for being so kind and replying to me. After this incident I thought humanity was dead but u reminded me that people can be caring. To Matt, I cant even think of things I use to enjoy. He has taken my joy away. I feel like I should go to italy and beg him to take me back but the ounce of self respect I have left wont let me.
    To no one….I am sorry that u feel the way I do. I wouldnt wish it upon my worst enemy. The feeling that someone has snatched the life out of u is more painful than labor. I am taking this a day at a time. He really did make me feel like I am responsible and I put him on such pedestal that I believe him…like really. I need to stay strong and pull myself together. This blog is helping me a lot. I hope u never get to the miserable place I am in. I wish u all the love in this world.

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