Dear perfect:

When you “did every single thing for him.i cooked ,washed his dresses ,massaged his body feets and hands when he asked me to do every single thing..” you offered yourself to him as his servant. Not a girlfriend, not an equal partner.

In return he was sometimes nice to his servant (you) and sometimes rude. At times cruel.

I suggest you offer yourself to a man you meet in the future as a girlfriend, an equal partner, not a servant. If you want to massage his feet, fine. Let him massage your feet too. If you are good at washing his clothes and he is not, fine, wash his clothes, but let him repair your shoes if they need repair. You get my point…?

You are confused because you are asking HIM questions and you are waiting for him to give you answers. Problem with doing so is that he likes some of the things you do for him, at least at times, when it is convenient for him. Every once in a while he misses what you do for him, the services you provide for him: cooking for him, washing his clothes, massaging his body, touching and stimulating him sexually, so he is not motivated to tell you his truth.

And what is his truth? Reads to me that his truth is that he likes you sometimes for the services you provide for him. In other words, he likes you sometimes as his servant.

Do you want to be a man’s servant or a man’s equal and respected girlfriend?

anita

Dear perfect:

My advice is to cut all contact with him because of two things:

One: you already established with him the role of servant. It will be very difficult to change that role. He is invested in your role and most likely, he will make it difficult for you to change this role with him. In your next relationship, make sure not to establish this role.

Two: he is not a decent man. He chose to take advantage of you repeatedly. A decent man would have not been in a relationship with a servant, either not get into a relationship at all, or if in relationship with you, he would have refused your many services, offer his, and would have asked you to stop being his servant and be his girlfriend.

I hope the massive spam of the last six hours will not keep you from posting again! Till later-

anita