Hi

My name is Vidoushi and I was born and brought up in Mauritius. I went to study to Canada and I met a guy there, an indian. We fell in love and we were in a relationship for 3 years in which 1 year we lived together. We were about to get married in one month when he suddenly broke up with me due to his family. I am having a hard time coping with this as it was my first ever relationship. I am feeling so depressed that I tried committing suicide.

Let me start from beginning. When I met my fiance I fell in love in love with him. He is such a great guy and a great person. He was like the perfect guy for me. Our relationship was going so smoothly ans we were so much in love. After graduation we started living together when suddenly his dad started forcing him to come back to India. He did not want to leave because of me and we were having a happy life. But his dad is having a business and he wanted his son back. His dad was never okay with our relationship because I was a foreigner. But I was from an Indian background itself, we share the same religion and culture. It’s just that we speak different language. We just communicate in English, which in his family no one is that good. But I was doing my best to learn his language.

One day his mum called us and said his dad agreed to marry us so come back. We got excited. I left my job, my career everything for him and came back to my country and he went to his. Later my mum and dad traveled to his place to fix a marriage date and came back. Over there my boyfriend expressed his wish to go and live separately just me and him and his parents agreed. I was always scared of his dad that he might do something to make him back out from this relationship. And I was expressing my feeling with him and he got the idea I don’t like his dad.

When the marriage date was getting near his family was not doing any preparation. Over here I did all my paper work to stay there and I booked my tickets to go for the marriage after asking my fiance and I spent a lot of money. Just one month before the wedding his dad and brother started creating some issue. They said they are not okay with this marriage and they don’t like me. They had never met me nor talked to me. They started blackmailing him emotionally saying I will separate the family when I will be there etc just because we were thinking of staying in another place after few months. His brother also is staying in his own house. I don’t know what exactly went up when suddenly he gave up. He called my dad and said the marriage is cancel. I was so heart broken because it was not even my fault and he blocked my everywhere so that I don’t talk to him. I deserve an answer or a proper reason. I was getting so depressed that I tried committing suicide. When he got to know he did not even call m to see if I am ok. The worst part is everything was on phone not even face to face just because we were in different country.

Later he called saying I don’t love you anymore, you will not fit in this family, no one likes you here. I did not believe him. I know he was forced to say that so that I hate him. But I know him so well. We cared for each other a lot and I always took great care of him. I told him you got blinded by your dad business and money that is why you are doing this. He said no its for my family happiness. His mum and cousins and friends actually like me a lot. Only his dad was creating an issue and pressuring him. He had promised me so much things and I even have my tickets to go to his place along with my family which are non refundable. I tried talking to him, contacting him but he blocked me everywhere.

His dad called my dad saying to leave his son alone. He admitted that he used me to get his son back home and even said go see what you will do with your daughter. I did not believe a dad talking like that. When my dad asked him then why did you promise all these, why did you call us there, he said it was all part of the plan. My dad even said what we will do with the air tickets now, we spent so much money and we asked my fiance before getting it he said we should not listen to him he is a kid and has no brain. My dad felt so bad that he told him you don’t have a daughter you will not understand but one day you will pay for all the wrong you are doing. He is too proud of his money and business that he does not have emotion.

Later I found out from my friends that his family is really really orthodox and they don’t like woman in the family to be career minded and working. Just look after the husband. But my fiance was never like that. He always pushed me to be independent. We were having a great life in Canada. I should have never agreed going back. Now I don’t have any idea what to do. I have to go back and again start from zero from finding a place to stay and a job and the worst part is being alone. My whole life in Canada my fiance was there and we were supporting each other. Now am all alone and am getting really scared of ending up alone.

I am 27. I really wanted to settle down in my life by 30. That was my first relationship. I don’t know if I will ever trust or fall in love again with someone. I am still having so much trouble moving on. I think of him everyday and cry and just want to talk to him. but I can’t contact him anywhere. I know he might be hurt also. I never went through a break up, that too such a bad one. I don’t how can he do that after all I did for him. I was there to support and take care of him all the time. How can he forget our love, promises, plans and everything. Please I need help to know how to cope with it. I in so much pain.