Sorry to hear about your the abrupt ending that is really terrible.

Maybe your therapist has a point. Would it help if you concluded that he’s moving away was an an underlying anxiety issue with himself? There’s nothing, no amount of love you could have gave to make him stay. Do some research into commitment phobia maybe you’ll get a better idea of the condition

As with all breakups distance yourself from him and cut contact,2 you have done nothing wrong yet he will have to carry around the guilt of his actions for the rest of his life. Hang in there, be kind to yourself and focus on your own wellbeing, sending you light and love

Hi Regina,

Sorry to hear things have not gone to plan, however, you yourself touch on a very important issue…understanding.
As you say, it doesn’t heal all the hurt, but it is crucially important to understand why others (and ourselves for that matter) make the decisions that we do. Once you understand that we are all different, we all have our own beliefs and we all have our own priorities…and it’s inappropriate to judge other people’s actions by our rules. It may make us feel vindicated or even a victim…but it won’t change the reality. We are all entitled to our own decision making process.
It’s a wise person who can accept other people’s decisions (whether we agree with them or not) and then deal with them as best they can.
It won’t always heal the hurt, but it can certainly help us to move on.