Dear Rosetta:

I would be very uncomfortable with his contacts with the other woman as well. To give myself the opportunity to feel comfortable, I would ask the boyfriend for the three of you to get together. If he refuses, that would be a deal breaker for me. If he agrees, then I will pay attention during the meeting, establish my position as the one and only girlfriend. Then I will see to it that there are more meetings in the future. It would need to be clear to me that … it is clear to all participants that I am the one girlfriend and that the relationship of the other woman and your boyfriend is strictly business and/ or friendly- the latter, with your participation.

It wouldn’t be okay for me that the two will meet as friends outside very strict circumstances, never alone, in her place or in his place; during the day, in a public place. I will also need to know the nature of the friendship. If it is not business, I will need to know that she is not.. the supplementary girlfriend, for him.

anita