Hi Katie,

I’m sorry you are going through this. I know things look bad right now, the sadness, depression, frustration, loneliness, etc..but this does in any way mean you are “stupid”. Please don’t call yourself these degrading names. You were a straight A student and had a terrific life. Don’t let one bad chapter, mean a bad life. Not to sound like a cliche, but “this too shall pass”. Right now, just take the time to focus on you. You don’t need a man in your life to make you happy, and you are not responsible for someone else’s happiness, only they are. If you take “responsibility” and say “I have to be this great girlfriend, never make a mistake, always make him happy, you will make yourself miserable, as no one can live up to that.

There is a quote I like to use because it is so true..”never chase/beg for love, affection or attention, if it is not given freely, it is not worth having”. You and your boyfriend are very young and you both are bound to make mistakes, no relationship will ever be perfect, I am sure he made his share of mistakes too. I believe his response to your Instagram game was blown way out of proportion, and he should have had a mature discussion with you about it, instead of having a knee jerk reaction and blowing up and suddenly breaking things off. I would leave him alone to settle down for a few weeks, and he will I’m sure have regrets about his innapropriate behavior, but you did nothing wrong, so please don’t blame yourself. If you do get back together with him, I would work on your communication with him, and conflict resolution skills, so you are talking to each other, instead of 1st each other and to avoid the bickering, yelling, anger. To behave more like a living couple to support each other. If this can’t be done, and he is still acting and behaving aggressively and innapropriate, I would re-evaluate the relationship. But remember, you were happy and content before him, and you can be happy without him. You can’t depend on someone to make you happy. Too many women seem they always “need” a man in their lives to “be happy” but happiness does not come from outside sources. x

Y