Ditto!! I’ve read some Martha Beck. She says when you don’t have a passion, follow a spark. Hmmm… No spark. The Passion Test is a great book detailing how to create the ideal life. But, I failed the test….. I am tired of being lonely, bored and blah in a room full of people with a mile-long to do list. Worst part is I have cancer. I am doing really well after being told I had a few months to live (and that was 2 yrs ago.) If ANYONE should feel overjoyed constantly, it should be me. That thought just makes me feel more guilty!!

You are not the only one my friend. Know that everyone feels that way at some point of their life.

For most of my life I felt alone. I didn’t have any body to talk to with true honesty. Not even my parents.
My parents are die hard christians and their sense of life just didn’t fit in with me. I tried questioning their fate
one time which broke into a major argument. Since then I just held my opinions to myself and waited till I moved out.

When I moved out I realized how lost I was. I struggled to fit in the real world because my entire life consist of
being surrounded with close minded people. I’ve never felt so alone in my entire life. I didn’t belong with my family
so I went out in the world thinking I belong somewhere else only to be disappointed. Believe it or not I spent 6 months
talking to only one person and I wouldn’t even consider him a friend, he was my landlord in my apartment. We only talked
about the bills I have to pay every time we talked.

Soon after I found myself taking long walks on the beach. It was there that I realized what was wrong. I felt alone because
I viewed everyone as different from myself. I distanced myself from people and I don’t mean physically, I mean emotionally and
mentally. I realized that every time I meet a potential friend, I would find a reason why they couldn’t be. I would think
I’m not good enough, or I would see and not accept their flaws, or just plainly label them as different.

After that, I realized I am really not alone. I have great neighbor who invites me for lunch every once in a while, I have a great boss
who gives me advice on my life. I have great coworkers whom I work with. I have wonderful classmates who are itching to take me to
bar for the first time. If I really look around me and really see my surroundings, I am actually surrounded by friends, it’s just my own
ego and ignorance that prevents me from seeing them. All I have to do is switch my perception and all of the sudden I have
awaken to the truth.

So the point is boredom and loneliness are just an illusion you create for yourself. I’m not saying that they dont exist but what I’m
saying is that with the right thought it can easily be remedied. It’s ok to be bored and lonely, you don’t have to look at it as some horrible
disease you should avoid at all cost. If you are bored and lonely, that is all there is to it sooner or later it will pass.

My friend remember the quality your life depends on how you view it. All you have to do is remember that you have an incredible gift being alive, if you realize that, boredom or not, you will appreciate every second of your life. I wish you the best of luck!

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Greetings John! Every person in this world has his own purpose. When we live for our purpose we never feel lonely or unhappy . All frustration and boredom is a signal that you are not on the right track. Find out your passion and make it your profession.Life will change after that.I have read a article, check it out..It helped me a lot and it might be useful for you as well.

http://upsohigh.com/purpose-of-life/

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did.

So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore. Dream. Discover.”

These are not my lines Lol…. best of luck 🙂

Hi John. Your list of culprits are nearly identical to my own. I’m trying to be creative,( although forcing myself would be a more honest) Other people tell me I’m my own worst enemy. With my long list of reasons to live in my insular world. Like most people I would love to have more confidence self esteem, but over the years I’ve lost both. I get invited out by family and friends.I’ll mostly go along, only to find I’m observing not participating. I allow no one to build a close relationship with me for fear of history repeating itself. I also have some mental health issues, which results in my self contained fortress always being guarded . Today after reading many helpful posts on Tiny Buddha forum, I’ve decided if while walking my dog Freddy , someone stops to say hi or fuss him I’m going to take pleasure being in the now. Thank you for sharing. It makes so much difference Knowing many of us are experiencing similar situations

Hello Anne, you too sound so much like myself…. I am finding it really hard these days also to accept the fact that there are so many people out there who feel the same yet we still end up lonely and fighting out own battles rather than being able to connect in daily life and support one another. I pray that this will change. Wishing you all the best. Anne

I am similar to the above writer, i too go through phases of lonliness, not so much boredom, just times of feeling really disconnected to the world. I used to have a lot of friends throughout school and uni, and even though i speak to a good few of these still, i can’t help but feel i have somehow lost my identity and my close, comfortable relationships with friends that i truly relate with. It doesn’t help that the majority of these are long distance and that literally close friendships, i have only a couple, so at weekends or free periods of time, i normally do things alone or with my boyfriend if i don’t plan in advance. A lot of the time i envy close social circles, i miss having a large group of mates to always spend Friday night with but then i remind myself i’m lucky to have the friends i do have, no matter where they are. I however, would love to have friends in closer proximity to me. As for boredom, read read, walk walk. The world is a beautiful place and books can take you away to other beautiful places.