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April 29, 2024 at 2:41 pm #432155
Helcat
ParticipantHi Everyone
Ups and downs. I feel like having a baby you don’t have time for your own emotions anymore. The baby just needs you all of the time and feelings need to be set aside.
On the plus side, I’m sticking to my physiotherapy.
I got this hip carrier for the baby now that he’s getting heavier too which will help with upper back and shoulder pain.
I’m glad my husband is starting to open up about the difficulties of parenting. He has been stressed and keeping it inside for too long.
Lunch was nice.
And despite teething my son was in a fairly good mood. I’m looking forward to when he is old enough to take teething medication. He’s really uncomfortable with it, bless his soul.
I’ve been using wrist braces with the pram and it’s starting to feel better.
Wishing yaāll all the best! ā¤ļøš
May 7, 2024 at 12:29 pm #432452Helcat
ParticipantHi Everyone
I actually figured out how to help my hormonal acne.Ā I had really good skin though the pregnancy, but afterwards it became terrible. Before it was always bad around my period. So what helped was to not touch my face. Especially when I get spots, I have a habit of touching my face. It seemed simple so I thought why not give it a go. Turns out it worked! Iām so happy that itās under control again. I really didnāt know that was a cause.
Iām happier with my skin and my weight now. Itās really strange the effect that thinking badly about yourself has on you, especially to do with your appearance. Itās hard to describe. Visually I can see that there have been changes but my mind hasnāt caught up yet. In a way, part of me still feels like it was before. Iām sure it will wear off over time.
It was really hard during the pregnancy with my weight. I actually preferred being overweight to being pregnant. The worst comment I got from someone was that I looked pregnant when I was overweight. Whereas when I was pregnant, some people for some reason felt like they had free rein to comment and describe in colourful language how big I was. This happened to me so many times, regularly. It was quite upsetting. I understand that people didnāt mean it in a bad way but it still hurt. I felt very insecure with all of the comments.
Iām glad that things are getting better now. I hope that things will be okay for when I go back to work.
Iām still doing my best to keep up with my physiotherapy.
Iāve been reading and learning about the links between tiredness, overstimulation and anger. Fascinating stuff!
Iām thankful for Peterās advice the other day. It was very helpful.
I noticed that sometimes Iām tired but not angry and sometimes Iām tired and angry. I asked my husband why he thought that was. He said āAh youāre like our son. Overstimulated!ā. That was very insightful of him. Iām thankful for that too.
Iām glad also that my husband has been communicating more during disagreements over things that bother him. For a long time he just said that I didnāt listen or that he didnāt feel heard. But no matter how I listened it didnāt help him. Itās really helpful now that he is giving me very clear descriptions of things that I can do to help him. Itās helping him to feel heard and listened to during disagreements.
Iām glad that our son is getting used to his formula. I hope he grows up to be happy and healthy.
Wishing everyone all the best! šā¤ļø
May 30, 2024 at 8:12 pm #433334Helcat
ParticipantIt has honestly been a bit rough recently. Iāve been feeling overwhelmed. My son started waking hourly throughout the night. Things are getting better now. Iām practicing various aspects of sleep training with him. I think I can celebrate now that Iām down to one wake a night! Hooray!
Heās trying really hard to crawl. Itās wild how quickly they grow up. I love his sweet face and his cute chubby cheeks. Heās such a good boy! Itās scary how he is a lemming though. I feel like a sentinel watching over him trying to protect him from himself. Iām glad that he is safe and happy.
Itās hard transitioning him to a bottle. He has a lot of strong feelings about wanting a boob instead. Heās okay taking a certain amount of formula, but after a certain point he says no more! I would like for him to be entirely on formula. It would be easier for my health. I just donāt want to upset him. I hate seeing him cry. I guess we just have to go a bit at a time and take things slow. I look forward to when these difficulties are behind us.
I enjoyed spending time with my family.
Weight loss has taken a bit of a hit because weāve been eating unhealthily. But weāre trying to get back into eating healthily.
As always, my husband has been amazingly supportive. Our communication during disagreements has been better too. Iām really thankful for that.
June 4, 2024 at 9:31 pm #433483Helcat
ParticipantHaving some difficulties with the body positivity again. A lot of people make negative comments about people who are pregnant or who have recently been. There is a lot of pressure to return back to the previous weight.
I couldnāt walk with the last month of the pregnancy, or much after the birth because I had major surgery. Then I hurt my knee and I couldnāt walk much because of that.
People donāt have realistic expectations. I donāt really talk about when Iām suffering, so how would they know? And Iām the only one responsible for taking care of my son during the night. So Iām exhausted and tiredness makes people eat. Iām doing the best I can right now to survive. That is all I can do.
In the spirit of body positivity. Iām glad that my stomach took care of and protected my child during pregnancy. Itās a miracle of life. Iām glad that I can walk a little more now. Being outside is really important to me. Iām glad that I can take care of my son. I remember when I was a child I didnāt really understand why adults would complain about being overweight. I thought it was perfectly fine for a mother to be overweight. From my perspective, it was softer to hug. My recommendation as a child was to dress better. Because itās easy to feel bad when you wear unflattering clothes. I think if you dress well it doesnāt matter what size you are, you can still take pride in your appearance. Perhaps I should take my own advice.
Iām thankful for my beautiful family. And thankful for the progress that my son is making with the bottle. Iām thankful that we have enough to eat. Iām thankful that the medicine is helping my dog to feel better because she has been sick. Iām proud of myself for working on my exams, even though itās difficult to find the time with a baby at home.
I think itās hard having taking care of a child because I like to help people. It feels like so much of my life now is centred around my son. I miss helping people. He deserves all of the attention and all of the help in the world. I know that it is important. I didnāt have that and I know how badly it screwed me up. Iām glad that I can do that for him. But I do miss helping people. It helped me to feel better about myself and negate the voice in my head telling me that I wasnāt good enough. Perhaps that is something I need to work on. Valuing my inherent goodness.
Sometimes my day feels small taking care of a child. Cleaning up. Feeding. Entertaining. To many people these are just regular everyday things. But sometimes regular everyday things are the most important. What a child values is consistent care and kindness and it helps them with so many challenges in their life if they have that stable base. I care about the little things. Like being positive when it is time to clean him up and not making him feel bad about being messy. Asking for permission to change him. Allowing him the space to protest if he doesnāt like something and listening to his wants and needs. Cheering for him when he achieves his goals. He gives me the biggest smile and the cheering encourages him to try and do it again.
On the one hand, my day is small but on the other I feel like I save him from himself on a regular basis. Like a sentinel Iām always there watching, trying to protect him. The boy is a lemming and even though nurses say that kids are resilient and stronger than we think. Iād argue that theyāre not. Itās important to be safe.
I wonder how I got through my early life of being a baby. Itās a miracle because my mother didnāt take care of me properly.
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