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January 2, 2023 at 11:05 am #413082farnazParticipant
dear Anita
thank to you too
about the doctor , i discussed with him about my hurt and i said to him his behavior was wrong and he still choose to continue his behavior , could we just agree on disagree ?he is not worth it
far
January 2, 2023 at 11:07 am #413083farnazParticipantdear Anita
honestly it triggers me that we are still talk about him
i didn`t write you further because you only discuss it in last post
far
January 2, 2023 at 11:26 am #413084AnonymousGuestDear Farnaz:
“Honestly it triggers me that we are still talking about him“- I don’t want to negatively trigger you anymore, but I need to be very clear about what kinds of talk triggers you, otherwise, I will be walking on egg shells. So far, you asked me to not talk about Politics, Money and this Man.
In regard to money, you asked to not talk about it, but later, you mentioned that doctors in Iran making little money and I responded with the idea that nurses in the U.S. make a lot money. After I mentioned the latter, I was worried that I broke my promise to you in regard to not talking about money. So I went back and saw that you were the one to mention how much money doctors in Iran earn. Moving forward: what’s your policy in regard to talking about money?
In regard to politics and to this man, what do I do if you bring either topic up? Ignore it?
Are there any other topics that trigger you? If there are, please be specific about what they are, in what context etc., whatever I need to know so to not trigger you.
I will reply to the rest of your earlier post after I submit this post.
anita
January 2, 2023 at 11:39 am #413086AnonymousGuestDear Farnaz:
“I was diagnosed with BPD based on the sense of abandonment once someone ignores me… I thought (people) were sitting somewhere trying to ignore me on purpose. I don’t think like that anymore, once I started to work… I don’t have that rage I used to have, and I don’t feel that emptiness I used to feel“- excellent, you made significant progress!!!
“I was there when I was constantly talking behind someone back, (someone) who hurt me, over and over, I admit I’m still doing it“- is this part of your objective in your thread: to vent about people who hurt you (ex., your step-mother), so to release tension?
“I could feel that putting a lot of thoughts and talking makes me suffer for longer period. It’s not for me“- do you mean that sharing too much about.. let’s say, your step-mother, makes you suffer more; and therefore some sharing makes you feel better (venting) but too much sharing makes you feel worse?
anita
January 4, 2023 at 10:22 pm #413224farnazParticipanti don
t appreciate your attitude , you have been so condescending and treating me like i
m a little girl who cant handle hard subjects . you are projecting your own issues on me , e,g being upset at me and telling i
m upset at you . you bring up my BPD diagnosis to explain my behavior . which was out of the line . i believe you really need to devalue me to calm yourself right now and its maybe because you pick up some clues from my notes which in your opinion shows disrespect or being annoyed and your tone was very passive aggressive lately , i understand you might are having some issues in your life and unfortunately i
m not a mental health worker and im not equipped to help you . i hope you get help or sort your problems by yourself eventually because i don
t deserve to be at receiving end of your hostility and frustration .best wishes
farnaz
January 5, 2023 at 6:05 am #413231AnonymousGuestDear Farnaz:
Would you like me to reply to your recent post (if so, to what purpose?), or was it your last message to me? If it is the latter, I say- with a smile on my face, because of the many good memories I have from our long conversation- goodbye Farnaz.
anita
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