You need to change the dialog in your mind that says his beginning rule had something to do with you – and only you- in the first place. Maybe he didn’t think himself capable of handling a serious relationship, or didn’t want to fall in love with anyone at that time? Maybe he is naturally a sensitive guy and used the rule as a way of scaring any chance for love away, because HE didn’t want to get hurt? Maybe it wasn’t the right time for either of you, and destiny stepped-in? Then, a while later, when his guard was down and the timing was right – you came along again and knocked his socks off. :0). Maybe he was impressed by your previously displayed confidence and refusal to accept less than what you felt you deserved in a relationship?

There’s all kinds of maybes out there that have nothing to do with “I must’ve sucked before” (pardon the bluntness). The point is, you have charmed him now., so you must be pretty terrific to have knocked his wall down. That’s something you should give yourself credit for, not beat yourself up over! :0)

Sometimes we just need to change our perceptions of ourselves and others. I imagine whatever his I initial motive was for creating rules, it had little to do with you. Go easy on yourself. :0)

Hi BellyButton

I experienced a very similar situation as you. Can I please know what is happening between you and this man now coz I had an unfortunate outcome and was very upset about it. Thank you.