Dear Thomas:

I would eliminate the part from “I am confused..” to “you’ve gotten the wrong idea about me and misunderstood me big time mate”- the last sentence is confrontational. He understood you quite well (end of page 1 of your thread). Even if you are more patient with him now, the anxiety you felt before when he didn’t answer you quickly enough etc., that anxiety does not disappear when we.. decide that we will not be anxious anymore.

I suppose you made a mistake when you expressed to him before how anxious you were and how badly you felt when he didn’t reply to you quickly enough, you really impressed your distress on him and he remembers it well. It will take some time for him to not feel that he is hurting you when he doesn’t reply to you quickly.

Better, in the future, contain your anxiety best you can, that is, express  some of it but not a whole lot. Because sometimes you say things and then, you can’t  unsay them. Do you know what I mean?

anita

Yes, Thomas, the rest of your message reads fine to me.

anita

Dear Thomas:

You are welcome. I am glad you are seeing a therapist. Feel free to post again anytime you’d like my input.

(I will be back to the computer in about 17 hours from now).

anita